The Enneagram and Spiritual Practices Type One Learning the enneagram can feel like a spiritual practice. There is so much depth to it, that I am always uncovering new layers and areas of growth for myself. I want to spend some time with you over the next several weeks exploring the enneagram and spiritual practices. Today we’ll talk about what spiritual practices are, and specifically dig in to a few that are great for enneagram type one. As each type has its own strengths and weaknesses, we are each drawn to certain practices naturally. The place I want us to land on, is understanding ourselves in our number (which is always a big goal here at Let’s Inspire Today), and finding a spiritual practice that allows for the most growth for our particular type and person. What is a Spiritual Practice? A spiritual practice is something you do regularly that connects you to the divine. This definition leaves open many options and opportunities. It really can be that simple. What do you do on a regular basis that brings you into the presence of more? When do you feel an expansiveness, an awe, or special awareness that is both beyond you and part of you? The practices that come naturally to you, and simply flow out of you are not the ones you need to work on. It’s fantastic that you have found those, and you should keep doing them, but we are always looking to grow. The practices that will force growth are going to be the ones that we almost cringe about. Challenge is always going to allow for the largest opportunity for growth. This means we have to practice the things that are hardest for us. To give you an idea of some common spiritual practices here are some examples: centering prayer meditation yoga morning pages confession Now that we’ve defined spiritual practice and looked at a few examples, let’s shift to focusing on enneagram type one specifically. Enneagram Type One It’s important to remember when deciding on a spiritual practice, that it is practice. One’s tend to want to be good at things right away. The focus here, is that in practicing, you have already done what you set out to do. The goal is in the effort, not the result. Committing to your practice and sticking to it alone is enough. The enneagram and spiritual practices The Down River Practice for Ones “Down River Practices,” are practices that are easy and natural to you. It’s like simply floating down river. This takes little effort, you are naturally good at it, and enjoy it. I didn’t want to overlook these kinds of practices, because it is worth noting that these are good and an important part of who you are. Keep doing these down river practices. Ones, being present oriented and repressed in their thinking center, chiefly want something to do in the moment. This means they are naturally good at things that fall into the doing category. Many type ones find it easy to lead, teach others, serve or guide, and organize a group or cause. They interact with others well and find joy in making a difference in peoples lives. The Upriver Practice for Ones However, if you are in a place ready to grow, it’s time to move into upriver practices. These are going to be practices you don’t enjoy, that you are going to have to work hard at. It’s as if you are paddling upriver to get to where you want to go. Though challenging, these will be the most rewarding for you. For Ones, these will be the quieter more contemplative type of practices. These could include: journaling, centering prayer, and meditation. A big challenge for type one during these practices will be quieting the inner critic. This is the time to really work against the negativity of the inner critic by intentionally adding in positivity. Through journaling daily, type one can focus on what is going well. This will really counteract the power of the inner critic’s constant judgement. Type one needs to own all the good that they have done. By writing this down daily, the negative voice will begin to get quieter. This practice will also result in a less stressed type one, who feels good about the day ahead. Noting the many things in life that are going right, lifts the spirit and reinforces positivity. Centering prayer, and meditation are also great choices for enneagram type one. These may be even more challenging because they require stillness and an emptying of thoughts. Quieting the mind can is definitely an upriver practice for a type one. The best way to begin, is with a small, achievable goal. Choosing a time that works and an amount of time that isn’t too overwhelming, maybe only five minutes a day to start, working towards a goal of twenty minutes. As always, remember that growth takes time. Don’t be too hard on yourself. Showing up for your practice is the most important step, and that alone is enough to build on. I applaud you on your efforts and encourage you to keep doing your best! Thanks for reading! Are you an enneagram type one? What practices work for you? What practices do you find challenging? You might also like: Behind the scenes of enneagram type one Enneagram Type One and Fictional Characters Grab an overview of enneagram type one in the shop get the overview here
The Enneagram and Motivations Why you do what you do makes you who you are. This is the key to knowing and understanding your type. Two different types may have the exact same behavior, but they are working from completely different motivations. This is fascinating to me, and the real core of the enneagram. So let’s go through the enneagram and motivations today! I’m going to do just a quick summary of each type on the blog, but I am also releasing today some beautiful printables that I think you will love! To get the entire summary, you can now print each type in the fun printables below. They are colorful and formatted simply on one sheet, while including all the points about each type’s motivates and a peek into their character. If you want all nine types in a packet format, they are available in the shop along with a ton more information on each enneagram type… Click Right Here! If you want a specific number, click the buttons for each type to find it in the shop! Or you can always browse the shop to find all of the enneagram products and printables that I have created just for you! Check out the shop! What Motivates Type 1? One’s are innately motivated by righteousness. What I mean by this is, they have in their mind a definite right way that things should be done in any given situation. They strive to do things this way, and avoid doing things, what they consider the wrong way. They judge themselves harshly in how well they are keeping up with this black and white way of life. One’s are keenly judgmental, and hold these standards so high that they are constantly disappointing themselves. This effort to do and essentially be good is the type one’s main driving force. Grab the printable about type one below: Type One Motivation Sheet What Motivates Type 2? The top motivations for two always come back to their relational side. They are in the heart triad, after all, meaning they feel first. However, their feelings are focused outwardly on others instead of what is going on with themselves. Much of their motivation comes from a deep place of wanting to be loved and accepted by others. Of course, we all want love and acceptance, but for the type two, this desire motivates them into action in a very specific way. They seek to provide needs and help others in hopes that this will in turn earn them love and the acceptance they so desire. Below is a complete sample (using type 2) of what the motivation sheets look like and include. Aren’t they fun? The blue boxes on the side, give a quick glance at the key motivations, while the right hand side is written out in descriptive detail about how our motivations make us and what that looks like in each type. I hope you enjoy these printables! Type 2 motivation sheet The Enneagram and Motivations Type 2 What Motivates Type 3? Type three is motivated by success. This will look different for each three depending on what their definition of success happens to be. Many three’s idea of success has been shaped by the influential people they grew up around. This would be parents, teachers, coaches, etc. who gave them an idea of what the “winning ticket” looked like. Threes naturally want to please others, this ties in to their motivation to succeed. If a parent stressed the idea of getting good grades as the picture of success, a type three would do everything in their power to get good grades. They have a strong will about them, that allows them to go after their desires in an almost cut-throat fashion. Find out even more about type three below… Type 3 Motivations Sheet What motivates Type 4? Fours are motivated by authenticity and beauty. This type does not put up with fake of any kind and cannot stand surface levels. Fours are deeply motivated by being their truest, raw versions of themselves, finding beauty in everything, including in pain and darkness, and desiring the same authenticity from others. They know that they are different and they wouldn’t want it any other way. Fours pride themselves in being their own unique expression of who they are, and will even go out of their way to make sure that they aren’t like everyone else. They don’t want to stand out in a “look at me- showy” sort of way, they just want to be themselves and be loved for who they are. More about fours… Type 4 Motivation Sheet What motivates type 5? Fives are motivated by independence and personal capability. If they want to know something, they are extremely fulfilled in figuring it out themselves. This gives them confidence and inner pride. Fives are also motivated to learn and research their interests. They will spend hours lost in discovering what they want to know most. This motivation of independence is carried throughout everything they do. Their inner world is so rich and multi-level that they can sometimes forget to let others in. Think of an iceberg, you see only it’s tip above the water, when in reality it’s bulk is hiding underneath the surface. Fives rarely share all the information, and especially if it is personal. More about fives… Type 5 Motivation Sheet What Motivates Type 6? Sixes are motivated by finding and keeping security. Security is this overarching theme that in seeking for it, causes sixes to also live with anxiety. This anxiety can get twisted into type six’s motivation where the anxiety moves them to do things in the hopes of then having security. Sixes often choose the “safe” thing, or the thing that they have the most support for. Since they often don’t trust themselves, sixes look to others for approval, help with decision making, and ultimately for support or a sense of security. More about sixes… Type 6 Motivation Sheet What Motivates Type 7? Type Seven is motivated by satisfaction. They live this out in many different ways that can look like chasing “fun,” but it more than that. Being future oriented, sevens are always looking for the next thing that will make them happy or fulfill them. They want the experience of feeling satisfied in every aspect, delicious foods, travelling to new places, trying and seeing things they have never seen before. Seven’s love going to events and it truly is all about the experience no matter where they go. If they are at a restaurant, they want the food and the environment to be positive and exciting. More about Sevens… Type 7 Motivation Sheet What Motivates Type 8? Eights are motivated by being in control. They hate others trying to control them or telling them what to do. This isn’t just because they are stubborn or difficult, eights have a true sense of how to manage things well. They have such a strong confidence and a way about them, that they really rarely need someone to tell them what to do. They’ve already thought of it and figured out the most efficient way to move forward. Eights are also highly motivated by justice and protecting those who have no one on their side. They see an underdog like a personal mission, and have no problem saying or doing what is needed to stand up for others. When this type is at their best, they are natural leaders who move mountains, stop bullies, and make real change. More about eights… Type 8 Motivation Sheet What motivates type 9? Nines are motivated by their keen desire to have peace at all times. They see a flawed world full of waves and turmoil, and all they want is calm waters. This desire motivates everything they do… and everything they don’t do. Nines constantly try to “keep the peace.” This can mean mediating between to opposing sides in order to keep a larger argument from breaking out. They also have this keeping the peace methodology internally. Nines want both peace on the outside and a calm inner world into which they can retreat. They are willing to bend and do what is needed to allow for this sort of peace to happen. More about nines… Type 9 Motivation Sheet
What are You chasing: Types 7, 8, and 9 In this series, we have been looking into each enneagram type and their patterns, motivations, and ultimately their chase that keeps them stuck. We all chase after what we think will give us love, acceptance, belonging, or what we think we need. Knowing your enneagram type will help you see the chase you are stuck in, and with practice derail the chase. Let’s look at types 7, 8, and 9 this week. Enneagram Type 7 What Are You Chasing? Types 7, 8, and 9 Type seven is chasing satisfaction and enjoyment. How can I have the most fun? At the same time, sevens are also avoiding pain and repress feelings. Their chase takes them from place to place, always seeking an experience of fulfillment while not going deep enough to feel uncomfortable or vulnerable. Keeping things light and fun, means sevens have a lot of friends. They also have more experiences and stories than any other number, but this chase can rob type sevens of the depth they don’t even know they desire. While bouncing around from this fun thing to the next, they miss connecting deeply. They’ve moved on before allowing themselves to be seen. These satisfaction seekers will never truly be satisfied if they stay on this chase. They are quick to re-frame things positively, which can be a great skill. However, sevens do this so quickly and seamlessly, it can feel like they are experiencing an alternate reality. Instead of feeling the pain of disappointment or heartbreak, they want to brush those feelings away seeing only a good side. But we need to disappointments to help us grow and heartbreak forms strength. Tools to derail the chase for type 7 Be here now. Sevens often thrive on anticipating future events so much so, that they forget to be in the present. Being in the moment will take conscious effort and practice for sevens, but will pay off. Repeating the words “be here now,” as a sort of mantra, can help ground sevens to the moment they are in. When distractions come and ideas that are more exciting that what is going on in the present, repeat the mantra. It will mean so much to the people you are with to have your full attention and awareness. This simple shift is a powerful tool in derailing your chase and bringing more meaning and satisfaction back to your life. Develop a consistent creative outlet Enneagram type seven probably has the biggest imagination of all the types. This means they need places they can use this massive idea factory stored in their brains. Using their creativity regularly helps sevens feel what they cannot express, stay grounded, and adds the satisfaction to life that they crave. It will look different for each individual, of course. Some sevens may love music and play many instruments, others might be very artistic and enjoy drawing, painting and creating. The key here is to define a time and place for this creativity to come alive, and keep to it. Maybe its every Sunday night in the garage… a set aside time and place for freedom (a type seven’s favorite word) and imagination to run wild. Let yourself be seen This might be the most challenging for type seven, who on the outside wants others to think of them as easy going and fun loving. But what about their deeper side? Beneath all that silly, happy-party person is a deep thinker. Someone with great and fantastical ideas, and someone afraid to get hurt. You don’t have to let everyone see your deeper side, but choose one or two close friends who you can share everything with. They will help you develop your repressed feeling center by being a safe place for you to express yourself. This is vital for derailing your chase, and worth every painful minute of practice. Enneagram Type 8 What are you chasing enneagram types Type eight is chasing justice and independence. Eights are big power players. But more than wanting control, they just don’t want to be controlled. They highly value their independence, as well as protecting the people they love. Their chase becomes dangerous when they are willing to hurt others to remain in charge of their own destiny. An eight’s boldness can allow them to be vengeful, self-centered, and intensely domineering. They see the world in black and white, right and wrong and will go after anyone challenging them. Under this warrior of a personality, lies a softer side, hidden and protected from possible betrayal (an eights biggest fear). Tools to Derail the Chase for Type 8 Put the Defenses Down Since eights have a stance of deflecting and being on the defense, it is hard to break through. Many times, all that is needed is a deep breath and a reality check. Some questions to ask yourself: What do I know for sure? Is it possible I am in the wrong? Have my words or actions been hurtful? Eights think and act so quickly that they can miss what is happening in the moment. Often times, they have moved on without taking time for valuable reflection. A simple pause and check in time, can be very helpful for type eight. Putting the defenses down will allow for awareness and growth. New perspective can be enlightening for eights who are used to seeing things only one way. Let Others In Eights fear being betrayed, and rarely take the risk of deep relationship. It is important for eights to have one or two people with whom they can show their deepest parts. Being vulnerable with these few people will allow that softness to develop and stop the chase of protection in its tracks. Choose a time once a week to share personal things with your person. This gives you accountability to stick to this development that is needed to derail your chase. Maybe you meet for coffee and answer these questions: What has made me feel out of control this week? What has made me feel loved? Was there a moment when I noticed myself saying or doing something that unintentionally hurt someone this week? These sample questions are a good place to start to give you something tangible to work with. Bringing up feelings and being aware of the way your dominance affects others are huge steps of growth. This is the beginning, and the person you choose to come along on the journey with you wants to support you and walk along side you as you grow. Enneagram Type 9 what are you chasing enneagram types? Nines are chasing peace. This peace they seek is both inner peace and outer peace. Their chase often looks like avoiding conflict in an effort to protect their peace, or find it. Like the other types, this seems like a good goal on the surface. Who couldn’t use more peace? But the danger of the type nine’s chase is the constant need for no conflict. They will avoid doing things, and spending time with people altogether to keep conflict at bay and remain in peace. Their chase can also look like not engaging in life. Hard conversations and tasks will get put off. They’ll do that later. Involving themselves might jeopardize the peace status… so its better just to let things go. Nines also shut down how they really feel in honor of perceived peace. They become people pleasers, agreeing to do whatever is asked of them. They want to please who they are with and go along with the plan, but may have no intention of actually doing it. Tools to Derail the Chase for Type 9 The Conflict Bridge I like this word picture of thinking of conflict like a bridge for nines. The bridge is the place where the hard thing has to happen, but once you cross it there is beauty on the other side. Nines tend to want to stay on the safe side for as long as possible, but in this case… the grass really can be greener on the other side. Embracing conflict may be the hardest thing you ever do. Remind yourself that you can do it. You can cross that bridge, and you will be happy you did. Think of what beauty lies on the other side, that should be your focus. All you have to do is walk over there. When this is realized, big doors begin to open for type nine. It won’t be easy, but positive self-talk can keep nines moving in the right direction. Remind yourself that you have handled conflict before, and that you can do it again. The peace you want is on the other side of the bridge. What do you want? Nines often get lost merging with those around them and don’t take the time and energy to figure out what they actually want. Getting out of this cycle is a tough one, but it begins by awareness. Notice when you are agreeing because its easier to merge than voice your opinion. Ask yourself, what do I want? What is my opinion? This practice will help you get a handle on how much you follow the wants and desires of others, and give you a starting place to find your own voice. The next step, is saying how you feel and stating what you believe. Sometimes that will mean saying, no. Other times that will mean you have to cross that bridge of conflict to be heard and to resolve a differing opinion. You are worth it. What you have to say matters and your beliefs deserve to be heard. Want an overview of all nine types? Grab the 9 types packet here! As always, Thank you for reading! I hope you have enjoyed this series of each enneagram type and their chase and some tools to derail those chases! You might also like: What Are You Chasing Types 1, 2, & 3 What Are You Chasing Types 4, 5, & 6
What Are You Chasing: Types 4,5, & 6? Last week, we started this series on what we are chasing after. These distractions and subconscious patterns can really take us down paths we never meant to go on. This week, “What are you chasing: types 4,5, and 6?” will focus on these three types, their chase, and tools to help each type derail this seemingly endless chase. Read last week’s post here (types 1, 2, & 3) For each enneagram number, the chase looks very different. When we are unaware, our chase can not only control us, but continue long after it should have run its course. However, if we are willing to go deeper beyond the surface level, we can discover: why we are chasing what we are chasing we can find the healthier path to get what we really want out of life The first step to understanding your chase is to identify it. What is it you are after? Why are you on this path? Is this the best way to get what you want and be who you want to be? What are your core motivations? Are you being honest with yourself? What parts of yourself have you been ignoring? Have you been putting feelings aside, skipping over taking time to think through things? Or maybe you get stuck in thinking and feelings, and never quite get around to doing. These important questions can really help you pinpoint what is going on with you. Pay attention to what comes up when you ponder these thoughts and ideas. what are you chasing? Type Four Let’s jump in and take a look at enneagram type four. The chase of the four centers around authenticity, belonging, and being unique. At first glance, these strivings seem harmless, even dare I say, beautiful? When there are healthy boundaries around these longings they can be lovely, but notice the words striving, and longing… Type four’s chase turns dangerous when they are striving after authenticity, belonging, and being unique. This becomes a distraction and they miss the beauty they could be embracing that is happening all around them. They feel they are missing out in a big way. While they are stuck in their feelings of missing out… here comes the irony, they actually miss out on life. Tools to derail the chase for Fours Go for a walk. This can be a great re-set for fours. Changing their environment, particularly if they can find a beautiful place to hike or take in nature. The outdoors have a deep healing capability and can reach fours in a way that is very unique. This also takes the focus off of comparing with others and what they might be missing out on. The real challenge for fours is to stay out of their own minds while out on the walk. If this is a struggle, bring along inspiring music. Make a playlist of songs that lift your mood and help you focus on positivity. Connecting and celebrating with others To get out of their chase, fours can reach out to others to connect. Fours are particularly good at seeing others and accepting whatever is real in the moment. This can be used in a positive way to derail their chase and also help a friend. Finding someone who is in worse shape than you, and connecting with them or even celebrating them will work like a tonic to your soul. Join in, and their will be no room for comparison or feelings of not belonging. Spend time with these people that love you for your authentic self, this will fill you up like nothing else. Type Five Type five is chasing knowledge and capability. The more they can know and the more they can do independently, the more confident and safe the type five feels. A thirst for knowledge and skills seems like something to be admired, so what is the danger? Just like all other numbers, this becomes the type five’s obsession and closes them off from growth. The chase of knowledge can turn into walls for the type five, keeping others out and also keeping the five from taking action. Their chase keeps them distracted by what seems good, but inevitably keeps them away from what they really need: connection. Learning, planning, and acquiring knowledge are all good things, but they can keep the type five from doing what needs done, and being with others. Tools to derail the chase for Fives Be Uncomfortable. Not what you expected… right? Fives are really good at staying inside their comfort zones, and building up walls of protection. The problem is, you can’t grow inside those walls. Do something at least once a week that is uncomfortable for you. This will break up those patterns that keep you from growing. It doesn’t have to be something huge and scary. Choose something small every week (you can even research ideas first)! For example: Talk to someone you wouldn’t normally talk to. Go somewhere you don’t want to go with a friend (at the last minute)! Stay at an outing an half an hour after you feel like leaving. These are small ideas, but you will feel yourself making the effort and that is where the change begins to happen. Your awareness that these are hard things for you, will begin a new pattern of growth and change inside you. Leap before you have all the answers I know. Another shocker! This is quite the opposite of a type five’s instincts. Usually I say, trust your instincts, follow the voice inside you, but part of the struggle here is too much researching and too little action. Fives want to know that they are completely capable before beginning, but this just isn’t realistic. Be okay with knowing a little, and jumping in anyway. It’s okay to leap before you have all the answers. You are allowed to make mistakes, you will still be highly respected and highly valued. In fact, getting going on what you’ve meant to get going on, will have a surprising effect on you. You will find that once you’re out there doing, you’re good at it. And it will feel good inside! Even the things you didn’t research… no one else will know but you. Type Six The type six is chasing safety and security. They ask all the questions, and seek after the things that make them feel most safe. Sixes are searching for situations where they can be prepared and have the most control. This chase can easily turn sour with over-vigilance and anxiety. It is impossible to control anything, and no one can be prepared for everything. This simple reality keeps the type six digging themselves in a deep hole. They want nothing more than a predictable life, but life is always unpredictable. This stresses them out, so they double down and try harder to be more prepared. And the chase goes on and on… Tools to derail the chase to type six Journaling The journal focus for type six needs to be: what things have I done that have went well for me? Sixes often forget that they have experience making good decisions and that things have gone well for them in the past. With every new doubt and dilemma, they feel anxiety rise up, full of what ifs. Journaling positive outcomes will help reinforce the fact that sixes make good decisions. Since they tend to doubt themselves, this is a perfect “derailing practice” for them. With consistency, this journaling focus will help type six develop confidence, and come to realize that they can trust their decisions and their instincts. Do it scared. Type six can walk circles around a decision with fear leading the chase. What if this happens, what if that happens, what would I do if… and on and on anxiety and doubt will go. What if you just did it scared? This is what true courage is after all, and the virtue of the type six. This means that it’s possible. That you can do things that you don’t think you can do. And when you do things that are hard and scary, they make you stronger and courageous! Before you do it scared… It might help to talk things all the way through. We know that the type six verbally processes and processes in real time, the moment happening right now. Choose someone who is willing to listen to do this. Talk out all your worst case scenarios and take them all the way to the end. Usually, you will find that even in your talking it through version of the scenario, things turned out okay. And even if the worst happened, you have someone there willing to support you. Notes to remember for all types As you are becoming more self-aware and making efforts to grow, be kind to yourself. It’s hard to make changes, and it’s best if you don’t do it alone. Let someone know that you are on the journey, maybe they can join you and you can lighten each others load. Remember that it is a journey. It takes time to notice your chase, practice to pause and pivot towards healthy choices, and to turn these into habits. It really is a life long effort, and one that is worth pursuing for yourself and all the people you love. Thank you for reading! It is my hope that these words have brought you some inspiration. Blessings, peace, and joy to you on your journey! You might also like: Enneagram type 6 and fictional characters Enneagram Type 5 and fictional characters Behind the scenes of enneagram type 4 Grab this type 4 printable here grab this type 5 overview here Grab this overview of type 6 here
What are You Chasing? Do you ever feel like you’re going in circles? Overwhelmed by the cycles of life, and you never quite get to where you set out to go? It may be time to ask yourself, what are you chasing? Why is it that you feel this disconnect from wholeness? Today’s post will cover types 1, 2 and 3 on the enneagram and their specific chase. We are all chasing something in an effort to feel seen, heard, loved and understood. The way we chase after these things however, looks very different for each enneagram number. We are motivated differently, and our subconscious sends us on the chase to fulfill a deep need within us. When this need goes unnoticed, the chase remains as simply a distraction from life’s true meaning and purpose. In attempt to get our needs met, we can create some pretty destructive paths. Identification The first step to understanding your chase is to identify it. What is it you are after? Why are you on this path? Is this the best way to get what you want and be who you want to be? These questions will help you pause and reflect upon what is really going on in your life. Many of us are stuck on “autopilot,” living each day like the one before… but what if there is more. And by more, I mean less… Let’s take a look at each enneagram type, their chase, and movement into growth toward their virtue. By understanding the chase, we can refocus, simplify, and move forward in transforming and beautiful ways. Type one Enneagram type one is chasing improvement and perfection. Doesn’t sound so bad, right? We need people concerned with making things better and striving for the best. However, the chase of the one becomes dangerous when they elevate this desire of improvements over all else. They become obsessed and harsh, pointing out every detail out of place. Judging themselves, others, and their surroundings for short comings, consumes them. And the chase is on! Here’s where the enneagram shines as my favorite tool… We can give the struggling type one practical handles to grab hold of that will literally change their life from chase cycle to a path of contentment and ease. Tools to derail your chase Journaling Ones need a place to channel their negative energy and critiques. Instead of tearing themselves and others down for the things that they see, one way to stop the chase in its tracks is to write these thoughts down. Get them out of your head and down on to paper where they can be put to rest for a while. Beyond letting the critiques be known in a safe place, a type one really needs to acknowledge the good that is happening in their everyday lives. Journaling about what is going right is an extremely powerful move for ones. Name the ten things going well, and let go of the one thing that went wrong. Movement Literally moving their bodies is a great way for ones to get out some of their energy and fill their bodies with positivity. Exercising can also help quiet that inner critic as the brain is flooded with endorphins. Letting Go Making a mental note and personal goal to let go, for type one is a major growth move. There are many little things everyday that are hard to let go of. Letting go of the control in a few small areas will allow for more feelings of peace and harmony, and a new found freedom for ones. Type Two Enneagram type two is chasing affirmation and approval from others. We all want to be liked by others and love hearing that we have done well. For the type two however, they can turn this into a manipulative pull. Subconsciously, twos chase this approval from others and prioritize it above all else. They give, give, give in hopes to gain likability in the eyes of others. Their chase feeds their ego which looks like pride. Two’s become martyr-like, sacrificing in ways beyond healthy boundaries that are both destructive and unwarranted. Tools to Derail Your Chase Pause for thinking It is the two’s instinct to act on whatever feeling is going on at the present moment. They leave thinking behind, and do until they are exhausted. A helpful tool for twos in these moments, is to pause and ask powerful questions to bring up thinking. Can someone else do this task? Do I need to take ownership of this situation? What am I saying no to, if I say yes to this? These simple questions can help the type two really focus on what is important. Prioritizing and setting boundaries helps you live your best life, and move in the ways you were meant to without taking ownership of things that aren’t meant for you to carry. Journal When type twos journal, they tend to focus on other people. Instead, let this journaling time be about you, reflect on how you are feeling. Write down the questions from above for even deeper reflection on what you are taking on. Think about the why in your life. Why am I doing what I am doing? You will be surprised at what comes up and the impact it will have on your life. This journaling exercise helps derail your chase by giving you back the power. It is easy to fall into dependence on others from their opinions to feeling obligated to serve them. You don’t need their approval. You are enough just as you are. Words of affirmation Furthermore, be your own encouragement. Find words that inspire you and choose a place to make them visible daily. Maybe you can write a powerful mantra on your mirror, or put a sticky note near your doorway. Through the ebbs and flows of life, you need to know that you are enough, that you already have everything you need within you. People are going to let you down, and without their love and approval, you still have what it takes inside you to be whole and lovely. Shower yourself with positive self-talk. This means tell yourself the words you need to hear. Steer clear of negativity and work at building yourself up. Say the things you would say to your dearest friend, and you’ll be right on target. Type Three Type three is chasing success and achievement. In one way or another we all want success, but for type three this is their end game. They will avoid failure at all cost, meaning if they have to cut corners a bit to come out on top, they will. In their chase, threes become chameleons in order to get what they want and to look how they feel they need to appear. When type three is caught up in the chase, they have a hard time seeing reality and understanding even who they really are. Their road to wholeness can be a tricky one. Tools to derail your chase Confession To begin the journey to wholeness, threes need to start by finding out where in their lives they are being inauthentic. This can be done through talking with a trusted friend. Being open about real struggles, and confessing where they haven’t been honest. Though challenging at first, this practice of confession will become extremely freeing for the type three. They live their lives in a guarded way, afraid of rejection and failure. By taking this step in honesty and vulnerability, their chase will be thrown off course. Journal Yes, this is a recurring beneficial practice! Each type needs journaling with a slightly different focus. For type three, let your journaling time be the place where you are the most honest. Community When threes move into their healthier space, there is a shift from spotlight on them, to caring more about the group as a whole. This can be done intentionally. Shifting the focus from personal success, to what does the group need? Not only can you lead the group with excellence as a three, but you can take advantage of what the community has to offer. Allow your community to support you, let them lead sometimes, and realize the gifts that come through dependence rather than being the lone wolf. Life will continue to ebb and flow. We will constantly be at odds with the chase. But this doesn’t mean we surrender to it. Even simply being aware that we have a chase, makes us more likely not to fall into it’s patterns. Be kind to yourself as you grow. Just try to make one positive step today that is better than yesterday. Move in the direction you wish to become. I hope that some of these tools will prove helpful for you within your own type and that you will be on your way derailing your chase and living in wholeness. Blessings! Thanks for reading! Grab this printable pdf below, a quick glance at the 9 types passions and virtues. Our passions are the chase left unattended. The virtue is our path toward growth and personal development. I want this printable! Want an overview of all 9 enneagram types? get it HERE! You might also like: Enneagram Type 1 and Fictional Characters Is Your Enneagram Passion Controlling You?
Enneagram Type 9 and Fictional Characters Enneagram type nines are known as the peacemakers. They desire both external peace and internal peace, and will do anything in attempts to protect either one. Let’s look at enneagram type 9 and fictional characters to give us something to grasp at. Dorthy Gale Dorthy feels deeply that her presence doesn’t matter (the childhood message of enneagram type 9) which motivates her to run away. She wants to go to a place peaceful and pleasant… over the rainbow. When she arrives in OZ, she moves from fear to merging with the plans and ideas of those in munchkin land. Glenda and the munchkins simply tell her what to do, and she follows their idea. Along the way, her type 9 generosity and kindness flourish as she meets and assists multiple characters. Dorthy helps the Scare Crow down from his post, and invites him along on the journey. The same thing happens with the Tin Man and the Cowardly Lion. The type nine’s peaceful presence is great at creating community and becoming what is needed for the group. Dorthy craves both inner stability and peace of mind. She also exemplifies many other type nine qualities such as: her patience, her friendliness, her go-along-to-get-along attitude, and at times her stubbornness. She shines as a type nine when she stands up for her friends. Nines will rarely stand up for themselves, but they find themselves mediating and helping others with problems many times. Harry Potter enneagram type 9 and fictional characters Harry Potter is raised by people who literally tell him that his presence doesn’t matter. This message stays with him forever, making him a classic enneagram type nine. Even though he learns that he is a famous wizard, this doesn’t go to his head. He wants peace inwardly and outwardly, and is willing to go after it. Harry most likely has an eight wing influencing some of his rebellious, and bold actions. Why we like nines Some of the best nine qualities are exemplified in Harry Potter. He is generous, accepting, empathetic, and open-minded. After only knowing Ron Weasley a short while, Harry eagerly buys “the lot” of sweets on the Hogwarts Express to share with Ron. Harry is easily likable, and not because he’s famous. He is truly a kind kid who makes others feel welcomed and accepted. Seeing more than one side of things is also one of Harry’s type nine superpowers, as well as being quite diplomatic. All of these qualities begin to blossom in big ways in The Order of the Phoenix with the beginning of Dumbledore’s Army, and a calling to make hard choices for Harry. Type 9 and weaknesses We see a classic take of the type nine’s conflict avoidance in book four, Goblet of Fire, when Ron and Harry aren’t speaking to each other. The boys talk to each other through mutual friends, and everything is very passive aggressive. Nines are also known for being procrastinators. We see Harry often putting off homework assignments for things he’d rather do, and getting distracted constantly by the magical things happening around him. Easy Going Harry Just under the surface, the type nine holds a place of constant optimism. It’s as if they are silently saying the mantra, “all will be well,” and they really believe this. They don’t attach themselves to outcomes, or worry about things not working out. Throughout the books, Harry has this quiet confidence. He knows things will work out even when he seems to be staring death in the face. (or literally is… he is still at peace with it). Thank you for reading! I hope you enjoyed my take on these two classic characters as enneagram type nines. Do you have a favorite enneagram type 9 fictional character? I would love to hear about your favorites! You might also like: Enneagram type 1 and fictional characters Behind the scenes of enneagram type 9 3 Secrets to stop falling into your old habits Want an overview of enneagram type 9? grab it here! This packet below includes an overview of all 9 types! I want all 9 types!
Enneagram Type 8 and Fictional Characters Enneagram type eights are known for their natural leadership qualities and abilities to get things done without emotions getting in the way. To give you a better idea of what that might look like, let’s explore enneagram type 8 and fictional characters. Mad-Eye Moody (From the Harry Potter Series) First of all, are we talking Mad-eye Moody when we first meet him as Barty Crouch Jr., or the real Mad- eye Moody? For typing sake, let’s focus on the real Mad-eye Moody and leave Barty out of it. A true type eight doesn’t care what others think of them and has a strong pull for justice. Mad-eye is a famous Auror, which in the magical world is sort of like being an FBI agent for the good guys. Mad-Eye has been wounded many times in his service to the common good, which accounts for his menacing appearance. His limp and his scars don’t slow him down, nor does he care what others think of him. In the true eight nature, Mad-eye stays on track, focused on the goal without worrying how he looks or how anyone feels. He gets things done efficiently, and leads in a commanding way that demands respect. Along with his leadership skills are his values to protect the innocent, the underdog, and those he loves, or is loyal to. Mad-Eye won’t put up with bullies, big or small. He even defends those being bullied. We see that Mad-eye fights to the death for what he believes in, protecting Harry and the cause. Katniss Everdeen (The Hunger Games) Katniss becomes the leader of her family after her father dies. This is typical of the type eight. When no one is taking charge, an eight will rise up and do what needs to be done. She provides food for the family by hunting, and creates a seemingly “safe” space for her sister to feel taken care of. Furthermore, Katniss shines in a real type eight hero moment, when she volunteers to fight to the death in place of her sister. This moment comes from her type eight gut reaction to protect a dear loved one. There is no way she can let her little sister enter the games where she will most likely die. Her rising leadership throughout the hunger games books is never about the spotlight, but always about justice. Katniss doesn’t care what she is supposed to do, but breaks the rules for what is right ,or often to protect others. On the outside she appears cold and unemotional, but we know that underneath her hard type eight shell there is a softer side. Eights protect this above all else. They never want to be seen as weak or vulnerable. Throughout the series, Katniss learns that the only way to true connection is through vulnerability. Who is your favorite type eight fictional character? Thanks for reading! I hope you enjoyed my take on these type eights! Want an overview of enneagram type eight? I want this type 8 overview! You might also like: Behind the scenes of Enneagram type 8 We Don’t Talk about ANGER! Grab an overview of all 9 enneagram types now by clicking the button below. I want all 9 types!
Enneagram type 7 and fictional characters Wondering what an enneagram type seven might look like? To give you an idea, we’re going to take a look at enneagram type 7 and fictional characters. This type is entertaining, fun, and future oriented! And guess what? Sevens are the most imaginative of all the enneagram types! Let’s jump right in! Jamie Fraser (from Outlander) Enneagram Type 7 and fictional characters Jamie is highly adaptable and always ready for the next adventure. He leads with his head, as all sevens do. His intuition is a great example of the complicated way a seven relates to people. Sevens are feelings repressed, but extremely quick thinkers. They think and act quite efficiently when they aren’t getting distracted. Feelings get left out in the cold. The enneagram type seven is known for entertaining. Jamie does this with his sense of humor (which is one of the things that Claire loves about him). His ease of character allows him to be who he needs to be in any given group or situation. Jamie is a friend to all. “The more the merrier,” is his mentality. He is beloved by his comrades because he treats them with respect. Everyone is valuable. However, the visionary force of a type seven is hard to stop. When they are determined, nothing can get in their way, and they can sometimes lack empathy. When limits are pressed upon them, they push back with great stubbornness, as we see frequently with Jamie’s character. Type sevens also have a way of spinning things optimistically and anticipating the future. No matter what is going on, a seven can reframe it in a positive light in order to digest the situation better. This type doesn’t want to feel boxed in or controlled, and will do almost anything to avoid this. Instead of feeling great pain, sevens use their incredible headspace to either avoid or view it in a different light. Captain Jack Sparrow (Pirates of the Caribbean) Even though Jack Sparrow is a deceiving, thieving pirate, there is just something likable about him. His charisma, charm, and humor draw us in the way a type seven naturally does. He is nothing if not entertaining. Jack loves a well played trick, or joke especially when he’s the last one laughing. Sevens also can’t get enough of life… This can be interpreted in several ways. Living forever is the ultimate dream, as is part of the theme of the famous pirate. He also brings an intensity of spirit, wanting to enjoy all the things worth living for. Furthermore, type sevens are known for their ability to think quickly, using wit whenever possible. Jack Sparrow uses this super power to get out of many sticky and dangerous situations. He would rather negotiate using his mind than risk physically fighting. This brings us to another point. Sevens classically avoid pain. Usually physical pain is not the problem, it’s that twisted tormenting emotional pain they can’t stand. This is what makes sevens feel slippery. When there is pressure, attempted control, or force of any kind put on them emotionally, they find a way out. Type sevens, like Jack, are constantly moving on to the next thing. They are both easily distracted and easily delighted. “Ooh… something fun and shiny is over there, let’s go that way!” Or “ahh, this is the most delicious drink I have ever tasted… life is bliss.” This focus on the future is also a way to avoid feeling the present. What do sevens value most? Freedom “Wherever we want to go, we go. That’s what a ship is, you know. It’s not just a keel and a hull and a deck and sails. That’s what a ship needs. But what a ship is… what the Black Pearl really is… is freedom” -Jack Sparrow Enneagram type sevens love possibilities. They are grand visionaries, and adventurers. Jack Sparrow gives us a nice glimpse at what this type might look like as a character. Thank you for reading! I hope you enjoyed these fictional enneagram type seven examples. Grab this overview of the enneagram type 7 below! Type 7 Overview! Wahoo! You might also like: Behind the scenes of Enneagram type 7 We don’t talk about ANGER! love letters to types 6 & 7 I want the 9 TYPES Overview Packet!
We don’t talk about ANGER! If you have young kids at home, you’ve probably seen the new Disney movie, Encanto. It’s a great movie all about a family who each possess a different magical gift. Surprisingly, I’m not going to relate this awesome theme to our different enneagram gifts (though I definitely could)! There is a song from this movie that will get stuck in your head called, “We don’t talk about Bruno.” It got me thinking… we don’t talk about ANGER! We don’t talk about anger Each of the enneagram types handles anger a little bit differently, but why aren’t we talking about it? Is it just me, or is this one of the main emotions that we need to work out? Why are we getting angry? How are we expressing anger? What underlying emotions are behind anger? How can we best handle anger? Maybe you and anger are good. But I have struggled with it my whole life. It’s the thing we don’t talk about. The thing you’re not supposed to feel or act on. Anger is my Bruno. I once heard it said, that anger is only the result of an underlying emotion. Which begs the question, what other emotion is hiding under anger? Even more than our avoidance issues surrounding anger, are all those other neglected emotions using anger as shield. So using the enneagram, we can boil down these hidden emotions into three main categories based on the triads. Anger is going to be masking fear, shame, or vulnerability. The Gut Triad Eights, Nines, and Ones, are part of the anger triad. This doesn’t mean any of them know what to do with their anger however. Eights tend to openly express it as they do with most things. Nines don’t even know they are angry. Ones are usually prone to stuffing the anger down to handle it at a more appropriate time. The Heart Triad This triad associates the feeling of anger more with the feeling of shame. For these three types, anger is going to relate to their image and their own perception surrounding it. Two’s anger usually comes from a place of feeling underappreciated, while a three might feel anger when they are not succeeding in a certain area, or failing at something important to them. A four’s anger will usually be related to how they see themselves fitting in to the world around them, or a flaw occurring in their idealistic ideas. The Head Triad Fives, Sixes, and Sevens, connect fear and anger in their own ways. A five can become angry when too much is expected of them without enough time to plan and prepare, or recharge. Sixes anger relates to safety and security. If either of these feel threatened, a sixes anger may rise up. Sevens anger mostly relates to not having choices, or being boxed in. A seven will fight against this just to feel the sweet breath of freedom. These may be overly generalized, but it gives you an idea of what makes each type connect to anger in their own way. So how can we talk about anger, and deal with it in a healthier way? Awareness The first step to changing any habit, is noticing that it is in fact a habit. This takes conscious self-observation, and time. Becoming self-aware is a life long journey and one of the best parts of the enneagram. You can begin by asking yourself some simple questions: What is going on inside me? What am I feeling? Where in my body do I feel something tensing? Why do I feel this way? Become an observer of yourself. Watch what you are thinking, feeling and doing. Action The next step, is moving toward growth and positivity. Moving forward now that you have observed your thoughts, feelings and body, it’s time to make some decisions. Many things may have risen up when you decided to do some self-reflection, things you might not be proud to admit. That’s okay. The important thing is now you can move in the direction you want to go instead of being controlled by the mask of anger. Here are some positive steps to move through your anger after you have identified it: Deep breathing. Taking deep breaths is good for your whole body and your mind. This gives you a chance to reset and calm down. This step alone can dissolve much of your anger. Proximity (physically moving away) If you notice that you are too worked up to handle what is in front of you, a positive choice is to remove yourself. For example, go for a walk (the fresh air will also do you good)! Move to a separate room, or the bathroom just to catch your breath and keep yourself from reacting when you need to respond. Talk about it Yep, let’s talk about anger! One of the best ways to diffuse a strong emotion like anger, is to name it. Just saying, “I feel angry!” can take away some of the power that you feel this strong emotion has over you. Even better, call someone you trust to talk this feeling through with you. Having a friend to help you clear away the cobwebs can be very transformative. If this scares you, think of the situation in reverse. If a friend called you and said, “hey I’m having the worst day, and I’m feeling angry,” you would most likely respond with compassion. Imagine these words, “I know just how you feel. Tell me what’s going on, I’m here for you.” These are the words we need to hear when we are in an anger crisis. The roots of fear, shame, and vulnerability make it hard to take off their mask of anger to be seen. Its easier to just keep getting angry, to not do the work, and to hide from others the deeper feelings underneath. As you do your hard work, showing up as yourself, remember that others need your compassion. Under their anger is someone scared to be vulnerable, someone too ashamed to share, or someone full of fear. Showing each other compassion will change our world. What if we listened instead of accused? What if we got curious instead of critical? Let’s give each other a hand as we talk about anger. It is my hope that you live an inspired life in continuous growth in the direction of your dreams and goals. Thank you for reading! Have a blessed day! To grab an overview of all 9 enneagram types, click the button below: 9 types enneagram overview packet You might also like: Enneagram 4 and Fictional Characters Enneagram 101 Love Letters to Types 8 & 9
Enneagram Type 6 and Fictional Characters Hey there, my fellow fictional character fans! What is it about fictional characters that draws us in? Is it that we see a little bit of ourselves, or maybe they remind us of someone we love, or someone we want to love?! I deeply relate to this week’s characters (type 6)! as we dive into the realm of enneagram type 6 and fictional characters! Remus Lupin Enneagram Type 6 and fictional Characters We met Professor Lupin in book 3 of the Harry Potter series, when he becomes the new defense against the dark arts teacher. He is by far my favorite choice for this post. As a type six myself, I see the things that Professor Lupin brings to the class that others do not. In general, Remus Lupin is just a “likable” guy. He’s authentic, doesn’t try too hard, and actually cares about teaching the students. He is well prepared, practical, and responsible. These are all typical six qualities, and make him a great teacher. The Fear Triad (head triad) Professor Lupin lives out of a unique type on fear. He is hiding the fact that he is a Werewolf, and he fears above all else, losing control and hurting others. He can’t trust himself, because he actually becomes something dangerous. This feels very six-ish. But don’t let the Werewolf identity muddy the waters too much. Being in the fear/head triad, Lupin is hyper-vigilant at times, defensive, and at his worst, self-defeating and rigid. He has good intentions, but is wary of things he can’t trust or control. Loyalty The type six is well known for this trait of loyalty. Lupin has this in spades. In every inner circle he is a part of, he shows nothing but loyalty to the group. From James Potter’s group of friends growing up together, to The Order of the Phoenix, to Hogwarts, and to Harry and his family, Lupin is a constant grounded pillar of dependency and trustworthiness. He obviously holds this standard as the highest of values. In addition to his loyalty, Lupin is also compassionate, witty, and supportive. It makes sense why he was relied upon as a friend, leader, and teacher. He gives Harry hope and direction when he needs it; he is the friend and leader that stands up with preparation when others are not ready. Edward Ferrars (Sense and Sensibility) Sense and Sensibility is my favorite of Jane Austen’s works. Maybe it’s because I relate to this main character, Edward Ferrars. He’s awkward and indirect, yet kind and attentive. He doesn’t easily let others into his heart, and he definitely doesn’t express his feelings outwardly until he is absolutely sure. Sixes are known to be guarded, to take their time on big decisions (such as, whom they want to marry). Outwardly, Edward may seem unimpressive, but it is this authenticity that draws Elinor to him. Sixes aren’t great at pretending. Though they have an active inner world, what you see is what you get. Edward isn’t flashy. This excerpt shows his “six-ness” well: “Edward Ferrars was not handsome, and his manners required intimacy to make them pleasing. He was too diffident to do justice to himself; but when his natural shyness was overcome, his behavior gave every indication of an open, affectionate heart.”Jane Austen -Sense and Sensibility Sixes need a little warming up time to show their true colors. But when they feel comfortable enough to do this, a long and deep relationship has begun. A six like Edward, becomes a friend for life. Their dedication is unwavering, and they will never betray you. I hope you enjoyed my take on these characters as enneagram type six. It really is fun to look at characters in this way in an effort to better understand ourselves and the world of characters around us! Inspire someone today! To learn more about type 6 check out this post: Behind the Scenes of Enneagram Type 6 You might also like: Is Your Enneagram Passion Controlling You? Grab this Enneagram Type 6 Overview below: Enneagram Type 6 Overview! Yes PLease! Want all 9 types? Click here for all 9 types!
