Enneagram Type 6 and Fictional Characters

Hey there, my fellow fictional character fans! What is it about fictional characters that draws us in? Is it that we see a little bit of ourselves, or maybe they remind us of someone we love, or someone we want to love?! I deeply relate to this week’s characters (type 6)! as we dive into the realm of enneagram type 6 and fictional characters!

Remus Lupin

Enneagram Type 6 and fictional Characters

We met Professor Lupin in book 3 of the Harry Potter series, when he becomes the new defense against the dark arts teacher. He is by far my favorite choice for this post. As a type six myself, I see the things that Professor Lupin brings to the class that others do not.

In general, Remus Lupin is just a “likable” guy. He’s authentic, doesn’t try too hard, and actually cares about teaching the students. He is well prepared, practical, and responsible. These are all typical six qualities, and make him a great teacher.

The Fear Triad (head triad)

Professor Lupin lives out of a unique type on fear. He is hiding the fact that he is a Werewolf, and he fears above all else, losing control and hurting others. He can’t trust himself, because he actually becomes something dangerous. This feels very six-ish. But don’t let the Werewolf identity muddy the waters too much.

Being in the fear/head triad, Lupin is hyper-vigilant at times, defensive, and at his worst, self-defeating and rigid. He has good intentions, but is wary of things he can’t trust or control.

Loyalty

The type six is well known for this trait of loyalty. Lupin has this in spades. In every inner circle he is a part of, he shows nothing but loyalty to the group. From James Potter’s group of friends growing up together, to The Order of the Phoenix, to Hogwarts, and to Harry and his family, Lupin is a constant grounded pillar of dependency and trustworthiness. He obviously holds this standard as the highest of values.

In addition to his loyalty, Lupin is also compassionate, witty, and supportive. It makes sense why he was relied upon as a friend, leader, and teacher. He gives Harry hope and direction when he needs it; he is the friend and leader that stands up with preparation when others are not ready.

Edward Ferrars (Sense and Sensibility)

Sense and Sensibility is my favorite of Jane Austen’s works. Maybe it’s because I relate to this main character, Edward Ferrars. He’s awkward and indirect, yet kind and attentive. He doesn’t easily let others into his heart, and he definitely doesn’t express his feelings outwardly until he is absolutely sure.

Sixes are known to be guarded, to take their time on big decisions (such as, whom they want to marry). Outwardly, Edward may seem unimpressive, but it is this authenticity that draws Elinor to him. Sixes aren’t great at pretending. Though they have an active inner world, what you see is what you get.

Edward isn’t flashy. This excerpt shows his “six-ness” well:

“Edward Ferrars was not handsome, and his manners required intimacy to make them pleasing. He was too diffident to do justice to himself; but when his natural shyness was overcome, his behavior gave every indication of an open, affectionate heart.”

Jane Austen -Sense and Sensibility

Sixes need a little warming up time to show their true colors. But when they feel comfortable enough to do this, a long and deep relationship has begun. A six like Edward, becomes a friend for life. Their dedication is unwavering, and they will never betray you.

I hope you enjoyed my take on these characters as enneagram type six. It really is fun to look at characters in this way in an effort to better understand ourselves and the world of characters around us!

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Beauty and Sorrow

Beauty and Sorrow

I recently heard the epiphany that beauty can’t exist without sorrow. At first glance, this idea seemed shocking and maybe not quite right. But the more I thought about it, the more I could see the truth of beauty and sadness intertwined everywhere.

Nothing beautiful lasts. A sunset is gone in minutes. A flower fades and dies after it’s bloom. In all of.. life, death is wrapped up inside it. When a perfect baby is born, death is also birthed. In thinking about this idea, I couldn’t help but see these patterns and connections in motherhood which may give us the ultimate viewpoint of beauty and sorrow.

Motherhood

Motherhood is full of firsts and lasts. Both are unpredictable and sudden. The firsts are anticipated with joy and excitement. When will they take their first step? And then one day, they just do. And on and on the firsts continue. Soon they are talking, reading, riding a bike… These beautiful things we love to love. But tied up in them, is the loss of them.

The lasts are harder because you don’t know its a last until it doesn’t ever happen again. Its that beauty and sorrow connection. It is the goal of parenting for your kids to move on, grow up, change and be who they are meant to be. But at each stage there is a grief of sorts for what once was, and will never be again.

I have felt many of these bittersweet changes. The last story in the rocking chair with a toddler in my lap, the last cuddles in my bed early in the morning, the last carry a sleeping child in from the car ride, and many more besides.

The Waves

It hit me again this morning that I may be nearing another last. The first warm-ish day we’ve had in months came, which begged us to venture out to the park. My oldest said good-bye to park days long ago, but Middlest and little W wanted to go.

It was a Friday, so most kids were in school (we don’t do school on Fridays). The park was full of my past life, moms with toddlers, babies, and pre-schoolers. It hit me suddenly that this was my past and not my present. With little W at 9 years old, taller than anyone else there that morning, and Middlest, looking like the teenager he has now become.

Is this it? I thought. Could this be one of our last times they want to run and play together at the park?

I tell you this because I think its important to recognize the moments in our lives when change is occurring. And furthermore, our feelings about those changes and any grief that rises up. It was rising up in me. But not in a terrible wave, just that gentle soaking of the feet in the tide… here it comes, it’s happening again. The beauty and the sorrow holding hands.

Sometimes the waves are bigger, and I really miss my babies. It’s just part of being a Mom. The Summer before last, (when we all stayed in) I made my first ever quilt. And not just any quilt. I used the saved and cherished baby clothes for this project, so that whenever I miss my babies, I can get it out and have something to hold on to.

For me, this was healing and it’s own sort of grief. It’s an acknowledgement of what was, and that beautiful entanglement joy and sorrow share. I couldn’t have what I have without the waves. The fading of the beauty is sometimes what makes it so beautiful, the simple fact that it won’t last forever.

So what does this have to do with the enneagram?

Learning your enneagram number is only the beginning. It is both beauty and sorrow to see plainly who you are. And some things need to pass away for other things to bloom and grow. Once you see the patterns that have brought you to where you are today, it’s time for a wave of change in your life.

You find the path of growth through being honest with yourself. Embracing what has been your life, and looking forward to what you want for yourself comes next.

The enneagram is a great example of this beauty and sorrow phenomenon. It is always present, always cyclical, always moving. Recognizing a truth in ourselves that needs to change leads us to a wave of change that allows for that part of us to fade away. Moving into new patterns is another wave we catch.

It is my hope that you can truly see yourself in beauty and see the things in your life that aren’t healthy anymore. Let go of those things that aren’t serving the kind of life you desire.

Embrace the patterns of beauty and sorrow as they show up in your life and spread inspiration as you travel this journey.

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Enneagram Type 5 and Fictional Characters

One of the wonderful things about this Enneagram and fictional Characters series, is that it gives you a snapshot of the enneagram type.

Seeing the behaviors, motivations, and passions of a fictional character will help you identify that character. When we talk about ourselves or others, sometimes its hard to be honest, but talking about characters is more accessible, and less threatening. Today, lets’ spend some time with Enneagram 5 and fictional characters.

Jane Eyre

Yes, Jane Eyre strikes me as an enneagram type 5! She is definitely in the head triad, spending much of her time thinking, wondering, and considering. (she most likely has a four wing, adding to her depth of thought, but we won’t get into that here).

Jane has a deep love of books, and spends much of her time reading and learning. She excels at the boarding school, dutifully working hard at her studies and following the rules. Later on, she becomes a teacher, and even a governess.

Furthermore, Jane highly values logic and capability. She figures out how to make her way in life on her own, and follows the most logical path. When she started working for Mr. Rochester as a governess to his ward, she never expected to fall in love with him. He finds her “to point answers,” and quirky-ness adorable. I find them enneagram five-ish.

Enneagram Type 5 and fictional characters

Although, most girls of her time would flirt and put on a facade, presenting themselves in the way most apt to get them a marriage proposal, Jane is simply herself at all times. She doesn’t go after Mr. Rochester, in fact she tries to deny her feelings for a long time. She is surprised to find herself jealous of a girl whom she thinks Mr. Rochester is interested in.

In other words, fives are often unaware and surprised by their own feelings. They don’t go out of their way to get attention. They are fine doing their own thing out of the spot light. A type five like Jane, can easily be looked over at a large gathering. They simply don’t play the social games that everyone else seems to play.

Finally, Jane Eyre makes a great snapshot of an enneagram type five in relation to her independence. She leaves on her own, telling no one of her plans to leave in the middle of the night. It is only as a last, desperate resort that she asks for help when she can’t go on any longer.

What do you think? Is Jane a type 5?

Professor (Severus) Snape

I see Professor Snape as a classic Enneagram Type 5. He is one of the most skilled and educated wizards of his time. His extensive research and knowledge/love of knowing, “how to bottle death,” etc. show his dedication and five-like qualities. There isn’t a potion too challenging for him, or an herb he doesn’t know. Snape is more than “book smart.” Remember, he’s the half-blood prince?

Type five falls into the withdrawn stance on the enneagram. This means that Snape and all fives, are looking back in the past, dwelling on things gone. We definitely see this with Snape. His whole life is about the past. Promises he made to those long gone, wrongs done to him, and memories both good and torturous are what occupy his present.

He doesn’t allow himself to get close to anyone, keeping his heart guarded and his emotions locked away. His dedication is to the cause, the only thing he has left of the one he loves.

Mr. Darcy

Enneagram type 5 and fictional characters

It may surprise you to think of Mr. Darcy as an enneagram type 5. Could it be his snobbishness is actually a misinterpretation of his shyness or classic type five withdrawn nature?

Type fives are also known to hoard emotions. They have a hard time feeling emotions when they are happening in real time. Instead, they store those emotions to think about and process at a later time. We don’t get to see Mr. Darcy processing his emotions, but we do get to see the result of this. After processing how he really feels about Elizabeth Bennet, he shows his love by helping her family avoid public shame, and writing her a letter to clear up misunderstandings.

Mr. Darcy displays many of the strong type 5 characteristics. He is logical, capable, and a deep thinker. Residing in the head triad, which is also the fear triad, he is hesitant to follow his heart, because he is not used to those feelings. When he does get in touch with those deep feelings through thinking through them, it all turns out good in the end!

Thanks for reading! Let me know what you think. Who is your favorite enneagram type 5 fictional character?

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Love Letters to the Enneagram Types 8 and 9

Love Letters to the Enneagram Types 8 and 9

Who doesn’t love a letter? And especially a LOVE Letter! I have enjoyed writing specific love letters to the enneagram types 8 and 9, and every enneagram type for this series! We are all so different and deserving of a letter made just for us!

I hope you enjoy these love letters and please spread the love! Share them with the people that need to hear them the most!

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Blessings!

Love. What is it?

What is love? Some would say love is caring deeply about someone. Others might say, putting the needs, desires and wants of others above your own is really what love means. What if love is attention? Then we have to ask, what is attention?

The American Heritage Dictionary defines it this way:

  1. The act of close or careful observing or listening.
  2. The ability or power to keep the mind on something; the ability to concentrate.
  3. Notice or observation.

Sounds a lot like the way we think of love doesn’t it? What if we took this idea and applied it to the enneagram types and their specific needs? Many of the types are gifted naturally at these skills of careful observing, listening, concentrating on what or who is in front of them. If this isn’t in your natural skill set, these are actually things you can get better at.

Since everyone desires attention and careful observation in different ways, I have written a love letter to each enneagram type expressing what they specifically would like to hear. What better way to let someone know how much you care than by giving them a love letter?

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Love. What is it?

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Remember to give those around you the care and attention they deserve… it really does show the love they crave. Find out what message they need to hear from you. Spend time this week expressing your love in all the ways you can!

Positivity really can change the world! It truly has a ripple affect!

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Love Letters to the Enneagram Types 6 & 7

Love Letters to the Enneagram Types 6 & 7

Are you anticipating a lovely, Big, extravagant Valentines Day next week? Or maybe you prefer simple plans with a night in. Either way, there is no better gift than a love letter! Isn’t that what we all want to hear any ways? We want to know that we are loved, and it doesn’t hurt to have it in writing!

Please enjoy today’s love letters dedicated to types 6 and 7!

Love Letters to the Enneagram Types

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Types Three, Four, and Five

I am continuing the Love Letter Series this week, dedicating a love letter to each enneagram number. What better gift, than the expression of love through words?

Please enjoy today’s enneagram love letters to types three, four, and Five!

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Happy February Friends!

It’s the month we love to love! I also love February because my second son was born ten days before Valentines Day. Celebrating his birthday is always a highlight for our family. This year we are Celebrating with his favorite superhero, Spider-Man!

I don’t love the over-commercialized side of Valentines Day, but what I do love is the focal point of expressing our love for each other. This idea I can get on board with! Saying I love you to someone is important, and the way you say it, can mean the world.

I thought I would begin this month with a dedication to each type and why I love that type. I hope you enjoy reading this series, “Love Letters to the 9 Types.” My goal is that each type will “feel the love,” and realize that they deserve it! Please share these letters with someone you love. And last of all, read your type and embrace the words meant just for you!

Enjoy this week’s love letters to type one and type two:

Enneagram Love Letters

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And now sending love to type two…

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Blessings!

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Enneagram type 4 and Fictional Characters

The thing about enneagram type fours that is most noticeable is their intensity. Whether up or down, type fours aren’t afraid to embrace the emotion they are in. Let’s take a look at the enneagram type 4 and fictional characters.

Anne Shirley (Anne of Green Gables)

Enneagram type 4 and fictional characters

Talk about intensity… Anne Shirley is the Queen of ups and downs. She is famous for her dramatic responses. Remember how she must have puffed sleeves? She focuses on this as a life or death need. She also uses phrases like, “I’m in the pit of despair!” and names every tree and special place in Green Gables, in awe of the beauty in her surroundings.

Type four is also known for their tendency to compare themselves to others and count themselves short. Anne is always wishing she had any color of hair, but the red locks she has. “If only…” then I would be happy. “How would it feel to have beautiful raven locks?”

Fours go deep fast. Almost instantly, Anne decides that she and Diana will be bosom buddies, best friends forever. Type four hates the mundane and shallow, they long for depth of meaning and express this openly, as Anne does constantly.

Marilla is often scolding Anne for neglecting her chores, instead finding her singing a sonnet or reciting a poem. Playing pretend is one of Anne’s favorite things to do. This lets her escape the boring reality of her situation. Often times, she finds herself in her imagination, a safe and beautiful place to be when the world outside has rejected and scorned her.

Luna Lovegood

Enneagram Type 4 and Fictional Characters

What’s not to love? Luna Lovegood from the Harry Potter Series, shows us the mystical side of fours. She loves to believe in the strange and magical. Even for the magical world, she edges on the bizarre and non-typical.

She is open to others opinions, and values everyone as equal. This is a beautiful and disarming feature of four. They are open-hearted and accepting, making others feel loved and brought in easily.

Luna often seems like she is living in her imagination, daydreaming and almost floating along. She also understands the darker side of life and is not afraid of it. Only people who have seen death in their lives can see the Thestrals (the skeleton-horses that pull the carriages to Hogwarts). Both Harry and Luna can see them. Everyone else thinks the carriages simply pull themselves.

Luna really takes this in stride, allowing the deep emotion to linger and even sharing it with Harry.

Marianne Dashwood (Sense and Sensibility)

Enneagram type 4 and fictional characters

You have probably heard a type four referred to as, “The Romantic Individualist.” This title fits Marianne Dashwood through and through. She would never settle for someone down to earth, and boring! (or would she)?

Type fours, like Marianne, are also known for their idealistic nature. They have high hopes and dreams for a perfect world, or partner, or lifestyle. Fours love to daydream and get lost in these notions of finding their perfect… whatever it may be.

As we see with Marianne, what looks like an exciting romantic partner, may not be what actually compliments type 4. She finds a harmonious partner in the unexpected, ordinary Colonel Brandon. When she overlooks him in the beginning, it is mostly because he is not her romantic ideal. She hasn’t imagined herself with someone so “boring.” But we see that he adds the balance to her dramatics that she so desperately needs.

We also see Marianne’s “four-ness” affect her sister Eleanor’s life. Marianne just can’t understand how Eleanor can be so emotionless about the man she loves. In her eyes, Eleanor needs to speak up about her feelings for Edward, or risk losing him.

Marianne also shows the hot and cold of the type four well. When things are going well for her, she is singing and dancing and the most joyous woman who ever lived. When she is faced with disappointment, her pit of despair is so deep she can barely crawl out of it.

Thanks for taking a look at this intuitive, sensitive, and passionate enneagram type 4 through these fictional characters with me!

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What does community really mean?

I feel like I can’t talk enough about community. We need to slow down and get better at loving the people around us. In a time when we are desperate to connect with each other, most of us are connecting only with our devices. Why aren’t we better at being in community? And what does community really mean?

Let’s get a little nerdy, just for a minute and talk about meaning. I love words and finding out their sources and depth of meaning. So, the word “community,” comes from the Latin communitas. Comm, meaning collectively, all of us, or in association with. And unitas, meaning obligated to, responsible for.

Knowing the meaning of this Latin root makes an impact on how we might view community. It helps us define community in more real terms than simply saying, all of us that are here, or us together makes community. What this definition implies is that there is more to community than simply a group of people.

It’s that last part of the word that packs a punch. Unitas- what are we as a group, obligated to, or responsible for, collectively? What drives us, as one? Answering those two questions will refine how you feel about your community and what it really means to be a part of one.

what does community really mean?

Are we working together toward a common goal? That’s community! Are we responsible to and for each other? That’s community! And reminding ourselves to check in with how highly we are regarding our community has never been so important.

It’s easy to take groups and associations for granted when you aren’t really invested in them. I would say then, you are not in community in those scenarios. The only way to feel like part of the community, is to become a real part. Take ownership, claim it as your place, and then walk along side people toward that common goal.

What else can we do to get better at living in community?

Self-evaluation

It’s always best to start with self-evaluation. You can’t change anyone else, but you do have the power over your own goals, intentions, and behaviors. So, take a look. What are your goals? Are they in line with your current community?

Safety

Another element that is key to a great community is feeling safe and secure within that community. You should be able to be completely you, show up with all of your rawness and authenticity and find love and acceptance. Communities are places of support and safety. this is what binds groups together as they walk toward their goals as one.

So be that kind of person for others in your community. Live with openness and compassion, avoiding judgement and comparing. This doesn’t mean that you can’t speak your mind, only that respect is what makes a place feel supportive.

Reciprocity

The natural give and take of community is a beautiful thing. This adds to the big picture of what it really means to be in community. You are accepted, nurtured, and loved, others can expect the same from you. You give of your time and resources, you can expect others to give of theirs as well.

I hope this gave you some new insight into the meaning of community. It is always my hope to spread positivity and inspiration. Take time today to really invest in your true community and reap the benefits!

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