The Enneagram & “Holding Space” You’ve probably heard of this term, “holding space” before. But what does it really mean, and how is it useful for our wellbeing and the wellbeing of others? Today, we are talking about the enneagram & “Holding Space.” Some enneagram types are better at this particular skill than others, but we all have the capacity to improve at it. Before we jump into it, I have to share this short clip from the series, “Queen Charlotte!” I was so moved at how perfectly it represents holding space for someone. In the clip, you will see Queen Charlotte overwhelmed and trying to hold back emotion. And in this moment she is given a second to catch her breath, compose herself, and feel supported by someone. I love this! If you haven’t seen Queen Charlotte, it is a great series! There are times in all of our lives when we could really use moments like this, a second to catch our breath with someone… for us to feel: good loved adored significant smart supported satiated valued and at peace Can you create space for someone today? Could you sit quietly and practice “being in the moment?” Listening more than you talk, allowing the environment to be safe, open, and loving? Let’s look at ways each enneagram type can use their unique skills to hold space in their own ways. Type 9 We are starting with type nine, because they are naturally very skilled at holding space. Some say, just sitting near a type nine helps them feel at ease, peaceful, and more relaxed. Imagine the good a type nine could do with this super power? Nines are easy going, low-pressure types that make others feel comfortable instantly. They hold space by not pushing their own agenda, listening well, and helping others see both sides, if asked. Their cool “vanilla” presence makes them ideal for someone in stress to calm down, de-escalate, and be heard. The other Withdrawn Types come in second for holding space skills: Types 4 & 5. Fours are always up for listening to some deep emotions, and they never put a time limit on expressing yourself. They can handle the hot and heavy, ups and downs, melancholy or dramatic. Enneagram fours want to hear it all, and support you as you express yourself. They are the ones to go to when you need to vent, but don’t really want a way forward. Fives on the other hand, will give you a solution. They are also good listeners, measured, and logical. They will let you just sit, if that’s what you need, but if you have a verbal problem, they will find a resourceful and logical solution. Fives are also very wise, and will give good advice in general. They most often hold space for others by making sure logical needs are met. Type 6 Enneagram sixes also have great skills for holding space for others. This type cares most about the whole, meaning, everyone’s needs and how this will affect everyone. They naturally create spaces where others feel welcome and served. They’ve thought of everything already. Sixes at their core, are loyal. They will sit with you through anything. Type 2 Twos serve others naturally, but they don’t always know in what way you need to be served. If you verbalize, however, they would rank number one in making sure you get that need met. They want nothing more than to please you. Type two is naturally compassionate, caring, and sensitive. The kind of space they hold is full of any possibility- whatever you need, they are there for you. Type 1 Type ones share the compliant stance with sixes and twos, which means along with these types ones are “go with” people. Ones are super dependable, and if you are in time of crisis, they will be your hero. This type is always ready to fight for what is right, honorable and good. They hold space for others by creating a space in the world that is wholesome and good. Type 7 Sevens love to look on the bright side. They an reframe a bad situation into rainbows and sunshine faster than you can blink. They are cheerful, charming, and love to story tell and joke. On the flip side, they are great thinkers, and can use this power to make space for others. When they know what is needed, they are quick to move mountains for their people. Type 8 Similar to sevens, eights stand up for their people. Taking an even more intense, and direct way, they protect those they love. Creating space for others, eights use their power, protection and strength. They can usually see what needs done, and are quick to do it. Eights can be good listeners, but they will also put a plan into action pretty quickly. This type doesn’t put much stock in feelings, but can be counted on to come through for you. Type 3 Threes need to be told, or shown through emotions that you are in need of something from them. This heart type can be greatly moved if you are willing to be vulnerable with them. Like eights, and sevens their aggressive counterparts, thress will want to take action and get a solution figured out. They make space for others with their charm and efficiency, and also their ability to understand emotion. Thank you for reading! I hope you enjoyed talking about holding space, and may we all make a better effort to hold space for those in our lives that need it! Blessings! You may also like: What Are Your Instincts? How do you make decisions based on your enneagram type? Grab This Overview Packet Now! Looking for even more? Grab this packet below, by clicking here!