The Enneagram & “Holding Space” You’ve probably heard of this term, “holding space” before. But what does it really mean, and how is it useful for our wellbeing and the wellbeing of others? Today, we are talking about the enneagram & “Holding Space.” Some enneagram types are better at this particular skill than others, but we all have the capacity to improve at it. Before we jump into it, I have to share this short clip from the series, “Queen Charlotte!” I was so moved at how perfectly it represents holding space for someone. In the clip, you will see Queen Charlotte overwhelmed and trying to hold back emotion. And in this moment she is given a second to catch her breath, compose herself, and feel supported by someone. I love this! If you haven’t seen Queen Charlotte, it is a great series! There are times in all of our lives when we could really use moments like this, a second to catch our breath with someone… for us to feel: good loved adored significant smart supported satiated valued and at peace Can you create space for someone today? Could you sit quietly and practice “being in the moment?” Listening more than you talk, allowing the environment to be safe, open, and loving? Let’s look at ways each enneagram type can use their unique skills to hold space in their own ways. Type 9 We are starting with type nine, because they are naturally very skilled at holding space. Some say, just sitting near a type nine helps them feel at ease, peaceful, and more relaxed. Imagine the good a type nine could do with this super power? Nines are easy going, low-pressure types that make others feel comfortable instantly. They hold space by not pushing their own agenda, listening well, and helping others see both sides, if asked. Their cool “vanilla” presence makes them ideal for someone in stress to calm down, de-escalate, and be heard. The other Withdrawn Types come in second for holding space skills: Types 4 & 5. Fours are always up for listening to some deep emotions, and they never put a time limit on expressing yourself. They can handle the hot and heavy, ups and downs, melancholy or dramatic. Enneagram fours want to hear it all, and support you as you express yourself. They are the ones to go to when you need to vent, but don’t really want a way forward. Fives on the other hand, will give you a solution. They are also good listeners, measured, and logical. They will let you just sit, if that’s what you need, but if you have a verbal problem, they will find a resourceful and logical solution. Fives are also very wise, and will give good advice in general. They most often hold space for others by making sure logical needs are met. Type 6 Enneagram sixes also have great skills for holding space for others. This type cares most about the whole, meaning, everyone’s needs and how this will affect everyone. They naturally create spaces where others feel welcome and served. They’ve thought of everything already. Sixes at their core, are loyal. They will sit with you through anything. Type 2 Twos serve others naturally, but they don’t always know in what way you need to be served. If you verbalize, however, they would rank number one in making sure you get that need met. They want nothing more than to please you. Type two is naturally compassionate, caring, and sensitive. The kind of space they hold is full of any possibility- whatever you need, they are there for you. Type 1 Type ones share the compliant stance with sixes and twos, which means along with these types ones are “go with” people. Ones are super dependable, and if you are in time of crisis, they will be your hero. This type is always ready to fight for what is right, honorable and good. They hold space for others by creating a space in the world that is wholesome and good. Type 7 Sevens love to look on the bright side. They an reframe a bad situation into rainbows and sunshine faster than you can blink. They are cheerful, charming, and love to story tell and joke. On the flip side, they are great thinkers, and can use this power to make space for others. When they know what is needed, they are quick to move mountains for their people. Type 8 Similar to sevens, eights stand up for their people. Taking an even more intense, and direct way, they protect those they love. Creating space for others, eights use their power, protection and strength. They can usually see what needs done, and are quick to do it. Eights can be good listeners, but they will also put a plan into action pretty quickly. This type doesn’t put much stock in feelings, but can be counted on to come through for you. Type 3 Threes need to be told, or shown through emotions that you are in need of something from them. This heart type can be greatly moved if you are willing to be vulnerable with them. Like eights, and sevens their aggressive counterparts, thress will want to take action and get a solution figured out. They make space for others with their charm and efficiency, and also their ability to understand emotion. Thank you for reading! I hope you enjoyed talking about holding space, and may we all make a better effort to hold space for those in our lives that need it! Blessings! You may also like: What Are Your Instincts? How do you make decisions based on your enneagram type? Grab This Overview Packet Now! Looking for even more? Grab this packet below, by clicking here!
How do you make decisions based on your enneagram type? Have you ever thought about what goes into making a decision? It happens automatically. We make thousands of decisions everyday, without giving much thought to the process. Did you know that even how you make decisions is based on your enneagram type? Let’s dive in to the realm of decision making, and why we decide the way we do. Firstly, it’s important to know what the word “decide” really means. The word, decide, basically means, “to kill off.” Does this surprise you? Let’s go deeper. The first part of the word (or the prefix) “de,” simply means “off.” But the other part of the word, “cide,” is found in words like: homicide, suicide, and genocide, and means “to cut,” or “kill.” So together we come up with a succinct definition: “to kill off.” Does this definition ring true for you and your experience of deciding? Do you think about decisions as killing off all the other options, and moving forward in the direction you have chosen? Whether you think of it this way or not, this is actually what is happening when you decide something. When you say “yes” to one thing, it means you are saying “no” to something else. You are “cutting off” other opportunities in order to give your, “yes.” This is the cost of making a decision. Now how does the enneagram come into play with decision making? Our decisions are closely related with our key motivations and how we process information. Each enneagram type will subconsciously follow a pattern of decision making based on these two components. If you are looking to improve your decision making habits, this is a great place to start. By being aware of our patterns, we can then decide to change them. So how do you make decisions based on your enneagram type? Enneagram Type 1 When it comes to decision making for ones, they want to make the right choice. This is the key motivation behind almost every decision that a type one makes. They are usually pretty quick decision makers, and know instinctively what the right choice is, based on their own set of personal standards and systems they have set up for themselves. However, they can get into trouble with how they process information. Ones are primarily anchored to the present, and also have a repressed thinking intelligence center. This means that ones can get stuck in their head, over-thinking, or over-criticizing themselves and the decision. Enneagram Type 2 Twos are greatly motivated by how received they are by others. This impacts their decision making because they want to please the people around them, as well as receive their love and approval. They make most decisions based on the perceived needs of others, and rarely consider their own wants or desires. This self-neglect gets them into trouble. They might even end up resenting others for not reciprocating care. Enneagram Type 3 Threes are motivated by success, or even the appearance of success. This influences their decision making by what they allow, and do t allow. They are also extremely driven, and value efficiency, which adds another element into decisions. If the decision reflects well on them, helps them achieve their goals, and can be done effectively – it is a definite yes for threes. They get into trouble when decisions become more about pretense, than authenticity. Deception can look grey to threes, as long as they are getting the results they want, they may be unaware at what cost. Enneagram Type 4 Fours are motivated by deep longings to be significant. This colors their decisions through self-expression, as well as how they show up in the world. Fours would never want to appear fake or phony. Their decisions center around their truth and their own identities. However, fours get stuck in the decision making process of actually moving forward. Since fours are anchored to the past (being in the withdrawn stance) they have trouble moving into action. Fours are “doing repressed.” They are great about dreaming up fanciful ideas, and beautiful plans, but sometimes the follow through just isn’t there. Enneagram Type 5 Fives are motivated by a desire to be capable, as well as to gain knowledge. Their decision making process involves extensive research, as well as logically processing, and thinking through how well they can prepare. Fives are usually steady decision makers who don’t take risks. They are measured, and weigh out possible outcomes. Similarly to type fours, fives are in the withdrawn stance and sometimes struggle with taking a plan into action. They love the research part of decision making, and may spend all their time dedicated to learning more and more about the current topic. Fives are not quick decision makers, and need time to process feelings and facts around the decision. Enneagram Type 6 Sixes are motivated by security and safety. They are also concerned with what is best for the whole group. These motivations are at the core of how sixes make decisions. Will it be safe? Will everyone benefit from the decision? Sixes want to make sure their decisions will be supported, as well as connecting in a relational way. However, sixes get stuck in over-thinking and anxiety when it comes to making a decision. They doubt themselves, and their own instincts toward making the right decision. They will often seek guidance outside themselves before making a decision, asking a trusted friend, or looking up answers from other trusted sources. Enneagram Type 7 Sevens are motivated by satisfaction, and enjoyment. They are usually up for anything and always want to be included. When it comes to decision making, their first instinct is, “yes, let’s do it!” They might over-extend themselves, by agreeing to do everything. They are quick decision makers, and clever enough to sometimes make this work for them. However, sevens may experience burnout easily by taking on too much and doing too much. They need to carefully consider what they are saying yes to. Being in the aggressive stance, sevens are very action oriented, but also feelings repressed. It’s important to slow down, and consider the feelings around decisions. Enneagram Type 8 Eights are motivated by not being controlled, and by justice. They are quick decision makers, and know instinctively what needs done, and they do it. This type has confidence in their decision making skills and has no trouble telling others what the decision is. It is easy for them to see clearly, without a lot of time needed for discussion, or planning. However, eights sometimes bulldoze over others in their quick powerful decisions. They are also in the aggressive stance, meaning they take in the world through instincts/ the body, and support their decisions with thinking; completely skipping over feelings. Some of their decision making also occurs as a result of them not wanting to be controlled. Enneagram Type 9 Nines are motivated by inner and outer peace. They might have the hardest time with the decision making process. Nines often “merge” with those around them, agreeing to what everyone else wants in order to keep the peace. They also have a hard time prioritizing actions. All tasks and decision can look of equal importance to a type nine. Nines are in the withdrawn stance, which looks like distraction for them. Instead of doing the important task, or making that important decision, a type nine might keep busy doing other things instead of those main tasks. This shows their tendency toward being “doing repressed,” and greatly affects their decision making. A reminder app, or special “to do” planner can be helpful for nines. Wasn’t that fun? I hope you enjoyed learning about how each enneagram type handles the decision making process. We are all so different! Isn’t it fascinating? Want to know more about each enneagram type? Check out the 9 types enneagram packet. This packet includes a page for each enneagram type, covering all the basics to understand that type! grab the packet! Bring the enneagram to your group! Start seeing better connections, more compassion for each other, and clear understanding. The enneagram improves relationships of all kinds. Check out the offerings below: enneagram for beginners course All 9 Types Quiz
Harry Potter and The Enneagram (types 5, 6, &7) We are continuing our series on Harry Potter and the enneagram with types 5, 6, & 7! I am enjoying this series extensively and I hope you are too! Seeing the types through fictional characters often helps us see ourselves more clearly, and others too. It’s that aha moment of, “ oh, so that’s what a type 5 is like!” Severus Snape: Type 5 I see Professor Snape as a classic Enneagram Type 5. He is one of the most skilled and educated wizards of his time. His extensive research and knowledge/love of knowing, “how to bottle death,” etc. show his dedication and five-like qualities. There isn’t a potion too challenging for him, or an herb he doesn’t know. Snape is more than “book smart.” Remember, he’s the half-blood prince? Type five falls into the withdrawn stance on the enneagram. This means that Snape and all fives, are looking back in the past, dwelling on things gone. We definitely see this with Snape. His whole life is about the past. Promises he made to those long gone, wrongs done to him, and memories both good and torturous are what occupy his present. He doesn’t allow himself to get close to anyone, keeping his heart guarded and his emotions locked away. His dedication is to the cause, the only thing he has left of the one he loves. Neville Longbottom: Type 5 Neville Longbottom, a favorite if mine, becomes obsessed with Herbology. Fives often choose a topic at a time and go deep until they know everything there is to know about it. Neville is found in the library among the plant books, and has received high praise from Professor Sprout, the Herbology teacher. He excels in this class because it becomes a passion and curiosity for him which he must learn to the best of his ability. Fives are also known to be rule followers. Neville abides by the rules, and expects others to also. When he discovers Ron, Hermione,and Harry sneaking out after curfew, he demands that they stop breaking rules. He’s also concerned about them as a whole, Gryfindor House, losing house points due to the rule breaking. Lastly, fives tend to be observers rather than joiners. they have a keen understanding for things going on around them, but prefer remaining in the outside. This distance from others is a way to keep themselves safe, as well as preserve energy. Remus Lupin: Type 6 In general, Remus Lupin is just a “likable” guy. He’s authentic, doesn’t try too hard, and actually cares about teaching the students. He is well prepared, practical, and responsible. These are all typical six qualities, and make him a great teacher. The Fear Triad (head triad) Professor Lupin lives out of a unique type on fear. He is hiding the fact that he is a Werewolf, and he fears above all else, losing control and hurting others. He can’t trust himself, because he actually becomes something dangerous. This feels very six-ish. But don’t let the Werewolf identity muddy the waters too much. Being in the fear/head triad, Lupin is hyper-vigilant at times, defensive, and at his worst, self-defeating and rigid. He has good intentions, but is wary of things he can’t trust or control. Loyalty The type six is well known for this trait of loyalty. Lupin has this in spades. In every inner circle he is a part of, he shows nothing but loyalty to the group. From James Potter’s group of friends growing up together, to The Order of the Phoenix, to Hogwarts, and to Harry and his family, Lupin is a constant grounded pillar of dependency and trustworthiness. He obviously holds this standard as the highest of values. In addition to his loyalty, Lupin is also compassionate, witty, and supportive. It makes sense why he was relied upon as a friend, leader, and teacher. He gives Harry hope and direction when he needs it; he is the friend and leader that stands up with preparation when others are not ready. Ron Weasley: Type 6 Similarly to Professor Lupin, Ron Weasley showcases loyalty as his best quality. He becomes fast friends with Harry, and instantly is dependable and thoughtful. Throughout the series, Ron is reliable, steadfast, and stands up for his friends. As a head type, we see him use his critical thinking skills many times to get the trio out of a tough spot. In the first book, we see it in the “best game of wizards chess ever played!” He sees what needs to be done and takes action. Other times, his doubts, anxieties and fears get the best of him. The forbidden forest with the spiders, the devil’s snare that he just can’t relax into, are both perfect examples. Sixes are known for “over-thinking.” Being smack in the middle of the head triad, makes Ron especially prone to taking in information with thinking and getting stuck there. Sirius Black: Type 7 Sirius seeks the most out of every situation. He hates being alone, as most sevens do, and has the advantage of turning into a dog whenever he wants. I think all sevens would love this idea! Dogs represent much of what a seven is all about: joy, companionship, and adventures! FOMO (fear of missing out) is the real deal for type sevens. Sirius risks being seen in dog form in order to say goodbye to Harry. Did I mention sevens are huge risk takers? They are fearless, future oriented thinkers. At their best, they are wise confidants. Harry seeks advice from Sirius numerous times. The big disconnect for type sevens are emotions. They don’t mind the positive emotions, but anything painful or perceived as harmful to them, sevens avoid at all costs. Sirius went in an opposite direction from his family, but he rarely speaks of it. It’s as if he wants to pretend those hurtful things are not a part of him. Instead, he plunges forward into dangerous heroism in hopes of defeating Voldemort. Ginny Weasley: Type 7w6 When we first meet Ginny, she presents as an introverted type seven. It is fascinating to see her character grow and blossom throughout the series. As she gains more confidence in herself, she becomes a girl who knows who she is, what she wants, and what she stands for. She becomes bold, and a striking person that others love to be around. Her quick wit and cleverness make her a type seven (with a type six wing). Though she’s not quite “the life of the party” like some sevens, her six wing makes her a bit more cautious. Her core desire is for contentment. She adds balance to “Dumbledore’s Army,” and is charming, productive, and enthusiastic. I hope you enjoyed my take on these Harry Potter characters! Thanks for reading! I would love to hear your thoughts. Who are your favorite characters? What type do you think they are? 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Enneagram Type 7 and Spiritual Practices How does knowing your enneagram type connect to spiritual practices? Any practice done with intention is beneficial. However, crafting a specific practice according to your enneagram type means your going to get the most “bang for your buck!” Your time will be well spent considering your needs and strengths within your type. Today, let’s look at enneagram type 7 and spiritual practices. How does this type best connect to a spiritual practice, and what practice will help them grow the most? Remember… Down river practices are going to be the practices that don’t take much effort. Things that come easy to you, are in your comfort zone, or you are already practicing in this downriver style, are not what we want to focus on. I applaud you if you already have a steady, daily practice. Let’s build on it! Upriver practices are where it’s at! These are the practices that challenge you, that make you uncomfortable at first, and also make you grow the most. You won’t naturally be good at them (it’s okay sevens, you can do these in private- no one will see you)! We know you like to appear to be good at things! This is a no judgement zone. Sevens are in the aggressive stance, meaning they are moving forward in action. They often “move against” to get what they want, and are always focused on what’s ahead, not the present or the past. A practice that helps them slow down and stay in the moment will be best for type seven. Daily Nature Walk There are many practices that allow for a slowness, and a certain keying in to the present. However, sevens need more than simply being still to connect and grow. A daily nature walk is the perfect practice for sevens. This gives them all the things they need, in all the ways they need them. The solitude helps them feel their feelings as well as bringing them in to the present. They are used to needing company and focusing outwardly. Things draws them both inward and outward as an observer. Questions & Thoughts to consider during this practice: What am I seeing that inspires me? How does it feel to be on my own? Are there feelings coming up that I have been neglecting or avoiding addressing? What does it feel like to have my feet contacting the ground in a firm and rhythmic way? Notice the sounds, sights, and smells all around you. Allow them to pull you into the present. Observe all that is good and life-giving. Taking it a step further My constant recommendation for every type- journaling! This can be done on the nature walk, and would be a great add-on practice to really see great benefits. Another great journaling tip for sevens: Keep a feelings journal. On a day to day basis, write down any time you have a big feeling and how long that feeling lasts. This will make feelings seem less scary and help you face them more easily. Naming your feelings is the first step in managing them. This practice also has the benefit of tracking. After journaling for a while, you can look back on your progress and really see how far you have come! More reasons nature and solitude are so healing for type 7 Type 7 on the enneagram has a strength line to type 5. This means that it feels wonderful for type seven to move into “five space.” It takes little energy, and feels freeing and relaxing. (all numbers will feel this way when moving into the space of their strength number). What does “five space” look like for a seven. It allows them to withdraw, go inward, become observers and learners. Nature and solitude really appeals to this side of seven. Time alone can actually recharge sevens when they embrace it in this way. Their connection to type five, helps them become reflective, and contemplative. Sevens need to use this space to grow, explore, and heal. I hope these ideas are helpful for you or a seven in your life! Thanks for reading! Live inspired! You might also like: The Enneagram and Spiritual Practices Intro and Type 1 Enneagram Type 7 and Fictional Characters Do you need a getaway to look forward to? We know how much type 7 likes to anticipate future fun plans! This retreat is made for you! You will get enneagram sessions Yoga Meditation A Guided Nature Walk (In stunning North Idaho) Healing Healthy Foods All Set in a Luxurious Historic Hotel! Find out More Now!
The Enneagram and Motivations Why you do what you do makes you who you are. This is the key to knowing and understanding your type. Two different types may have the exact same behavior, but they are working from completely different motivations. This is fascinating to me, and the real core of the enneagram. So let’s go through the enneagram and motivations today! I’m going to do just a quick summary of each type on the blog, but I am also releasing today some beautiful printables that I think you will love! To get the entire summary, you can now print each type in the fun printables below. They are colorful and formatted simply on one sheet, while including all the points about each type’s motivates and a peek into their character. If you want all nine types in a packet format, they are available in the shop along with a ton more information on each enneagram type… Click Right Here! If you want a specific number, click the buttons for each type to find it in the shop! Or you can always browse the shop to find all of the enneagram products and printables that I have created just for you! Check out the shop! What Motivates Type 1? One’s are innately motivated by righteousness. What I mean by this is, they have in their mind a definite right way that things should be done in any given situation. They strive to do things this way, and avoid doing things, what they consider the wrong way. They judge themselves harshly in how well they are keeping up with this black and white way of life. One’s are keenly judgmental, and hold these standards so high that they are constantly disappointing themselves. This effort to do and essentially be good is the type one’s main driving force. Grab the printable about type one below: Type One Motivation Sheet What Motivates Type 2? The top motivations for two always come back to their relational side. They are in the heart triad, after all, meaning they feel first. However, their feelings are focused outwardly on others instead of what is going on with themselves. Much of their motivation comes from a deep place of wanting to be loved and accepted by others. Of course, we all want love and acceptance, but for the type two, this desire motivates them into action in a very specific way. They seek to provide needs and help others in hopes that this will in turn earn them love and the acceptance they so desire. Below is a complete sample (using type 2) of what the motivation sheets look like and include. Aren’t they fun? The blue boxes on the side, give a quick glance at the key motivations, while the right hand side is written out in descriptive detail about how our motivations make us and what that looks like in each type. I hope you enjoy these printables! Type 2 motivation sheet The Enneagram and Motivations Type 2 What Motivates Type 3? Type three is motivated by success. This will look different for each three depending on what their definition of success happens to be. Many three’s idea of success has been shaped by the influential people they grew up around. This would be parents, teachers, coaches, etc. who gave them an idea of what the “winning ticket” looked like. Threes naturally want to please others, this ties in to their motivation to succeed. If a parent stressed the idea of getting good grades as the picture of success, a type three would do everything in their power to get good grades. They have a strong will about them, that allows them to go after their desires in an almost cut-throat fashion. Find out even more about type three below… Type 3 Motivations Sheet What motivates Type 4? Fours are motivated by authenticity and beauty. This type does not put up with fake of any kind and cannot stand surface levels. Fours are deeply motivated by being their truest, raw versions of themselves, finding beauty in everything, including in pain and darkness, and desiring the same authenticity from others. They know that they are different and they wouldn’t want it any other way. Fours pride themselves in being their own unique expression of who they are, and will even go out of their way to make sure that they aren’t like everyone else. They don’t want to stand out in a “look at me- showy” sort of way, they just want to be themselves and be loved for who they are. More about fours… Type 4 Motivation Sheet What motivates type 5? Fives are motivated by independence and personal capability. If they want to know something, they are extremely fulfilled in figuring it out themselves. This gives them confidence and inner pride. Fives are also motivated to learn and research their interests. They will spend hours lost in discovering what they want to know most. This motivation of independence is carried throughout everything they do. Their inner world is so rich and multi-level that they can sometimes forget to let others in. Think of an iceberg, you see only it’s tip above the water, when in reality it’s bulk is hiding underneath the surface. Fives rarely share all the information, and especially if it is personal. More about fives… Type 5 Motivation Sheet What Motivates Type 6? Sixes are motivated by finding and keeping security. Security is this overarching theme that in seeking for it, causes sixes to also live with anxiety. This anxiety can get twisted into type six’s motivation where the anxiety moves them to do things in the hopes of then having security. Sixes often choose the “safe” thing, or the thing that they have the most support for. Since they often don’t trust themselves, sixes look to others for approval, help with decision making, and ultimately for support or a sense of security. More about sixes… Type 6 Motivation Sheet What Motivates Type 7? Type Seven is motivated by satisfaction. They live this out in many different ways that can look like chasing “fun,” but it more than that. Being future oriented, sevens are always looking for the next thing that will make them happy or fulfill them. They want the experience of feeling satisfied in every aspect, delicious foods, travelling to new places, trying and seeing things they have never seen before. Seven’s love going to events and it truly is all about the experience no matter where they go. If they are at a restaurant, they want the food and the environment to be positive and exciting. More about Sevens… Type 7 Motivation Sheet What Motivates Type 8? Eights are motivated by being in control. They hate others trying to control them or telling them what to do. This isn’t just because they are stubborn or difficult, eights have a true sense of how to manage things well. They have such a strong confidence and a way about them, that they really rarely need someone to tell them what to do. They’ve already thought of it and figured out the most efficient way to move forward. Eights are also highly motivated by justice and protecting those who have no one on their side. They see an underdog like a personal mission, and have no problem saying or doing what is needed to stand up for others. When this type is at their best, they are natural leaders who move mountains, stop bullies, and make real change. More about eights… Type 8 Motivation Sheet What motivates type 9? Nines are motivated by their keen desire to have peace at all times. They see a flawed world full of waves and turmoil, and all they want is calm waters. This desire motivates everything they do… and everything they don’t do. Nines constantly try to “keep the peace.” This can mean mediating between to opposing sides in order to keep a larger argument from breaking out. They also have this keeping the peace methodology internally. Nines want both peace on the outside and a calm inner world into which they can retreat. They are willing to bend and do what is needed to allow for this sort of peace to happen. More about nines… Type 9 Motivation Sheet
What are You chasing: Types 7, 8, and 9 In this series, we have been looking into each enneagram type and their patterns, motivations, and ultimately their chase that keeps them stuck. We all chase after what we think will give us love, acceptance, belonging, or what we think we need. Knowing your enneagram type will help you see the chase you are stuck in, and with practice derail the chase. Let’s look at types 7, 8, and 9 this week. Enneagram Type 7 What Are You Chasing? Types 7, 8, and 9 Type seven is chasing satisfaction and enjoyment. How can I have the most fun? At the same time, sevens are also avoiding pain and repress feelings. Their chase takes them from place to place, always seeking an experience of fulfillment while not going deep enough to feel uncomfortable or vulnerable. Keeping things light and fun, means sevens have a lot of friends. They also have more experiences and stories than any other number, but this chase can rob type sevens of the depth they don’t even know they desire. While bouncing around from this fun thing to the next, they miss connecting deeply. They’ve moved on before allowing themselves to be seen. These satisfaction seekers will never truly be satisfied if they stay on this chase. They are quick to re-frame things positively, which can be a great skill. However, sevens do this so quickly and seamlessly, it can feel like they are experiencing an alternate reality. Instead of feeling the pain of disappointment or heartbreak, they want to brush those feelings away seeing only a good side. But we need to disappointments to help us grow and heartbreak forms strength. Tools to derail the chase for type 7 Be here now. Sevens often thrive on anticipating future events so much so, that they forget to be in the present. Being in the moment will take conscious effort and practice for sevens, but will pay off. Repeating the words “be here now,” as a sort of mantra, can help ground sevens to the moment they are in. When distractions come and ideas that are more exciting that what is going on in the present, repeat the mantra. It will mean so much to the people you are with to have your full attention and awareness. This simple shift is a powerful tool in derailing your chase and bringing more meaning and satisfaction back to your life. Develop a consistent creative outlet Enneagram type seven probably has the biggest imagination of all the types. This means they need places they can use this massive idea factory stored in their brains. Using their creativity regularly helps sevens feel what they cannot express, stay grounded, and adds the satisfaction to life that they crave. It will look different for each individual, of course. Some sevens may love music and play many instruments, others might be very artistic and enjoy drawing, painting and creating. The key here is to define a time and place for this creativity to come alive, and keep to it. Maybe its every Sunday night in the garage… a set aside time and place for freedom (a type seven’s favorite word) and imagination to run wild. Let yourself be seen This might be the most challenging for type seven, who on the outside wants others to think of them as easy going and fun loving. But what about their deeper side? Beneath all that silly, happy-party person is a deep thinker. Someone with great and fantastical ideas, and someone afraid to get hurt. You don’t have to let everyone see your deeper side, but choose one or two close friends who you can share everything with. They will help you develop your repressed feeling center by being a safe place for you to express yourself. This is vital for derailing your chase, and worth every painful minute of practice. Enneagram Type 8 What are you chasing enneagram types Type eight is chasing justice and independence. Eights are big power players. But more than wanting control, they just don’t want to be controlled. They highly value their independence, as well as protecting the people they love. Their chase becomes dangerous when they are willing to hurt others to remain in charge of their own destiny. An eight’s boldness can allow them to be vengeful, self-centered, and intensely domineering. They see the world in black and white, right and wrong and will go after anyone challenging them. Under this warrior of a personality, lies a softer side, hidden and protected from possible betrayal (an eights biggest fear). Tools to Derail the Chase for Type 8 Put the Defenses Down Since eights have a stance of deflecting and being on the defense, it is hard to break through. Many times, all that is needed is a deep breath and a reality check. Some questions to ask yourself: What do I know for sure? Is it possible I am in the wrong? Have my words or actions been hurtful? Eights think and act so quickly that they can miss what is happening in the moment. Often times, they have moved on without taking time for valuable reflection. A simple pause and check in time, can be very helpful for type eight. Putting the defenses down will allow for awareness and growth. New perspective can be enlightening for eights who are used to seeing things only one way. Let Others In Eights fear being betrayed, and rarely take the risk of deep relationship. It is important for eights to have one or two people with whom they can show their deepest parts. Being vulnerable with these few people will allow that softness to develop and stop the chase of protection in its tracks. Choose a time once a week to share personal things with your person. This gives you accountability to stick to this development that is needed to derail your chase. Maybe you meet for coffee and answer these questions: What has made me feel out of control this week? What has made me feel loved? Was there a moment when I noticed myself saying or doing something that unintentionally hurt someone this week? These sample questions are a good place to start to give you something tangible to work with. Bringing up feelings and being aware of the way your dominance affects others are huge steps of growth. This is the beginning, and the person you choose to come along on the journey with you wants to support you and walk along side you as you grow. Enneagram Type 9 what are you chasing enneagram types? Nines are chasing peace. This peace they seek is both inner peace and outer peace. Their chase often looks like avoiding conflict in an effort to protect their peace, or find it. Like the other types, this seems like a good goal on the surface. Who couldn’t use more peace? But the danger of the type nine’s chase is the constant need for no conflict. They will avoid doing things, and spending time with people altogether to keep conflict at bay and remain in peace. Their chase can also look like not engaging in life. Hard conversations and tasks will get put off. They’ll do that later. Involving themselves might jeopardize the peace status… so its better just to let things go. Nines also shut down how they really feel in honor of perceived peace. They become people pleasers, agreeing to do whatever is asked of them. They want to please who they are with and go along with the plan, but may have no intention of actually doing it. Tools to Derail the Chase for Type 9 The Conflict Bridge I like this word picture of thinking of conflict like a bridge for nines. The bridge is the place where the hard thing has to happen, but once you cross it there is beauty on the other side. Nines tend to want to stay on the safe side for as long as possible, but in this case… the grass really can be greener on the other side. Embracing conflict may be the hardest thing you ever do. Remind yourself that you can do it. You can cross that bridge, and you will be happy you did. Think of what beauty lies on the other side, that should be your focus. All you have to do is walk over there. When this is realized, big doors begin to open for type nine. It won’t be easy, but positive self-talk can keep nines moving in the right direction. Remind yourself that you have handled conflict before, and that you can do it again. The peace you want is on the other side of the bridge. What do you want? Nines often get lost merging with those around them and don’t take the time and energy to figure out what they actually want. Getting out of this cycle is a tough one, but it begins by awareness. Notice when you are agreeing because its easier to merge than voice your opinion. Ask yourself, what do I want? What is my opinion? This practice will help you get a handle on how much you follow the wants and desires of others, and give you a starting place to find your own voice. The next step, is saying how you feel and stating what you believe. Sometimes that will mean saying, no. Other times that will mean you have to cross that bridge of conflict to be heard and to resolve a differing opinion. You are worth it. What you have to say matters and your beliefs deserve to be heard. Want an overview of all nine types? Grab the 9 types packet here! As always, Thank you for reading! I hope you have enjoyed this series of each enneagram type and their chase and some tools to derail those chases! You might also like: What Are You Chasing Types 1, 2, & 3 What Are You Chasing Types 4, 5, & 6
Enneagram type 7 and fictional characters Wondering what an enneagram type seven might look like? To give you an idea, we’re going to take a look at enneagram type 7 and fictional characters. This type is entertaining, fun, and future oriented! And guess what? Sevens are the most imaginative of all the enneagram types! Let’s jump right in! Jamie Fraser (from Outlander) Enneagram Type 7 and fictional characters Jamie is highly adaptable and always ready for the next adventure. He leads with his head, as all sevens do. His intuition is a great example of the complicated way a seven relates to people. Sevens are feelings repressed, but extremely quick thinkers. They think and act quite efficiently when they aren’t getting distracted. Feelings get left out in the cold. The enneagram type seven is known for entertaining. Jamie does this with his sense of humor (which is one of the things that Claire loves about him). His ease of character allows him to be who he needs to be in any given group or situation. Jamie is a friend to all. “The more the merrier,” is his mentality. He is beloved by his comrades because he treats them with respect. Everyone is valuable. However, the visionary force of a type seven is hard to stop. When they are determined, nothing can get in their way, and they can sometimes lack empathy. When limits are pressed upon them, they push back with great stubbornness, as we see frequently with Jamie’s character. Type sevens also have a way of spinning things optimistically and anticipating the future. No matter what is going on, a seven can reframe it in a positive light in order to digest the situation better. This type doesn’t want to feel boxed in or controlled, and will do almost anything to avoid this. Instead of feeling great pain, sevens use their incredible headspace to either avoid or view it in a different light. Captain Jack Sparrow (Pirates of the Caribbean) Even though Jack Sparrow is a deceiving, thieving pirate, there is just something likable about him. His charisma, charm, and humor draw us in the way a type seven naturally does. He is nothing if not entertaining. Jack loves a well played trick, or joke especially when he’s the last one laughing. Sevens also can’t get enough of life… This can be interpreted in several ways. Living forever is the ultimate dream, as is part of the theme of the famous pirate. He also brings an intensity of spirit, wanting to enjoy all the things worth living for. Furthermore, type sevens are known for their ability to think quickly, using wit whenever possible. Jack Sparrow uses this super power to get out of many sticky and dangerous situations. He would rather negotiate using his mind than risk physically fighting. This brings us to another point. Sevens classically avoid pain. Usually physical pain is not the problem, it’s that twisted tormenting emotional pain they can’t stand. This is what makes sevens feel slippery. When there is pressure, attempted control, or force of any kind put on them emotionally, they find a way out. Type sevens, like Jack, are constantly moving on to the next thing. They are both easily distracted and easily delighted. “Ooh… something fun and shiny is over there, let’s go that way!” Or “ahh, this is the most delicious drink I have ever tasted… life is bliss.” This focus on the future is also a way to avoid feeling the present. What do sevens value most? Freedom “Wherever we want to go, we go. That’s what a ship is, you know. It’s not just a keel and a hull and a deck and sails. That’s what a ship needs. But what a ship is… what the Black Pearl really is… is freedom” -Jack Sparrow Enneagram type sevens love possibilities. They are grand visionaries, and adventurers. Jack Sparrow gives us a nice glimpse at what this type might look like as a character. Thank you for reading! I hope you enjoyed these fictional enneagram type seven examples. Grab this overview of the enneagram type 7 below! Type 7 Overview! Wahoo! You might also like: Behind the scenes of Enneagram type 7 We don’t talk about ANGER! love letters to types 6 & 7 I want the 9 TYPES Overview Packet!
Love Letters to the Enneagram Types 6 & 7 Love Letters to the Enneagram Types 6 & 7 Are you anticipating a lovely, Big, extravagant Valentines Day next week? Or maybe you prefer simple plans with a night in. Either way, there is no better gift than a love letter! Isn’t that what we all want to hear any ways? We want to know that we are loved, and it doesn’t hurt to have it in writing! Please enjoy today’s love letters dedicated to types 6 and 7! Love Letters to the Enneagram Types If you would like to grab a copy of this love letter click the button below: Love Letter to type 6 Love Letters to the Enneagram Types 6 & 7 Want to grab your own copy of this love letter? Click the button below: Love Letter to Type 7 You might also like: Loving your Community Through the Enneagram Love Letter to Types 1 & 2 Love Letter to Types 3, 4, & 5
Behind the scenes of Enneagram Type 7 Type sevens are known for their high-spiritedness and natural optimism. This type is often referred to as, “the enthusiast,” and they are the most imaginative of all the types,but is there more to this type than up-beat pep and energy? Let’s go behind the scenes of enneagram type 7 to find out. The Aggressive Stance Speaking of up-beat energy, type seven is at the top of the energy pool. Along with type 8 and type 3, type 7 is in the aggressive stance. These numbers feel big in the room. They take up space with their confidence and manner. These three numbers possess the most energy of the types, and get the most done. The aggressive stance also means that type seven has a focus on the future. This is evident in the way sevens love to plan parties, or anything “fun,” that they can look forward to. Anticipation of the fun, is equally or even more enjoyable than the actual event. The aggressive stance means the “doing” center of intelligence is dominant, the thinking center supports the doing, and the feeling center is repressed. For sevens, this means doing comes first. They are extremely impulsive, fast learners, and eager to go on to the next, and the next exiting thing. Thinking comes in second place for sevens, but only after doing. They fall into “asking for forgiveness later,” mentality. Since their feeing center is repressed, sevens are very out of touch with their feelings. It is their nature to avoid feeling pain of any kind, which includes intense emotions. They subconsciously tune out or fall asleep to these kinds of feelings that make them uncomfortable. Behind the scenes of Enneagram Type 7 Now that you know what stance the type seven is in, let’s go behind the scenes of enneagram type 7 a little more and find out about their triad. The Head Triad The head triad, also called the fear triad is where type seven inhabits. For the seven, this means they love thinking about ideas, and future oriented plans. They may even love reading, if it is something to keep their interest. Though they are part of the “Fear triad,” they are out of touch with their fear. This is related to the way they handle emotions. Since fear feels negative, sevens will re-frame this into something positive or something they don’t need to deal with, or something they can deny altogether. The biggest fear of the type seven is of missing out, or of being trapped. They definitely want to be involved in every fun plan and event going on; they want to steer clear of anything that will box them in or emotionally make them feel the feels. Disappointments, sadness, and boredom are avoided at all costs. What we love about sevens Sevens truly are the life of the party and a ton of fun to be around! They are eager and optimistic and want to experience all that life has to offer. The type seven is charming and friendly, with huge imaginations that serve them well. They like to do things on the fly and really see the upside of everything. What’s not to like? This cheerful type sure brightens up the world! What does Type Seven need from others? Companionship. They don’t want to go on their adventures alone whether real or imagined (for they are also great story-tellers) they want someone to come along for ride and someone to share their stories with. Make them laugh. Sevens love to laugh and embrace the silly side of life. Encourage this, and laugh with them. Accept them the way they are. Sevens don’t like to be boxed in, or restricted. Remind them to be in the present. Sevens get lost seeking the next fun thing in the future; they need pulled down once in a while from their lofty dreams. I hope you enjoyed going behind the scenes of enneagram type 7 where the glass is always half full. Grab this printable below! Any type 7 would love this candle! Get it here!
