It’s Okay

Do you ever feel like you aren’t enough? Like no matter what you do, it could have been better, you could have shown up in a way that people need you to, or put more thought into the moment? It’s okay. You’re not alone. We all have moments everyday when we let ourselves down. I want you to know that it’s okay… we have a lot to let go of.

Why are we so hard on ourselves?

Do we always feel like we have to show just the good stuff, the polished, best stuff to the world?

What about the rest of it?

Life is messy. Chaotic. And sometimes REAL UGLY…

And it’s okay.

I want you to come to a place where you are comfortable with the vulnerable imperfections of our every day lives. In the mess, there is beauty to be found and gifts given.

Here are my truths for you:

It’s okay to make mistakes.

Breathe in. Breathe out. Let it go. Second chances mean you get a clean slate to try again. But there is also joy in midst of doing it wrong. What?! Sometimes happy accidents lead to the most brilliant adventure, or surprise occasion. Embrace the mistakes. Move on in positivity and growth.

It’s okay to say, “No.”

Many of us struggle with the power of good boundaries. Boundaries help us love each other better. They mean, “This is mine,” and “That is yours.” When you understand your boundaries, you can say yes to the right things, and own what you need to, to live your best life. This means saying, “no” to some things, so that you can say. “yes” to the things that matter.

It’s Okay To Ask For Help

Sometimes we think we have to figure things out all on our own. What will others think of me if I can’t do this? Well, actually asking for help builds bonds- it doesn’t destroy them. Doing things independently can be more efficient at times, but it can also be isolating, and cause burnout. Let someone know you would appreciate their help, they will be glad you asked! And you’ll be surprised at the closeness formed around this encounter.

It’s Okay To Not Know Everything

Being well-informed is fantastic, however trying to know everything can be hindering in many ways. Not only is it exhausting, but it keeps you from opportunities and relationships. Most people don’t care if you have researched every angle before you talk about something, so take a risk and add a little spontaneity into your week.

It’s Okay to Be Unprepared

Sometimes stress in tied to how much we have prepared, this makes us feel like we have some control over certain situations. The reality is, we have little control over anything. Preparing gives us something to do, but will never fix problems or cover everything. The future cannot be seen; Eighty percent of the things we worry about never happen. It’s better to spend time doing what is necessary and then enjoying the people in the current moment.

It’s Okay to Be Yourself

Is it scary to show up as yourself sometimes? Maybe people won’t like you if you aren’t what they want or need in this moment. These are fears that all of us face at times, but the truth is, we want to see you just as you are. The people that love you don’t need you to perform, or put on a mask. Show up as the real you, and see what happens.

It’s okay to Not Be Okay

When we are stressed, or feeling a lot of emotions, sometimes we tend to hide this from others. What is the worst that could happen if we fall apart, and admit that, “I’m really not okay?” Most people respond to honesty with compassion. This is a huge plus, right? This means we should share with trusted others when things are rocky in life.

It’s Okay to Be Vulnerable

Sharing something that is close to our hearts feels scary. Once we let it out there, we no longer have control. It is unknown how others will react, what they will think, and what it will mean for our relationship. However, there is a sort of magic to being vulnerable with someone. Did you know that in most cases, vulnerability creates deeper relationships, allows for positive growth, and helps others let their guard down as well?

It’s Okay to Let Your Chaos Hang Out

Trying to keep the peace ALL the time is exhausting! Not only will it tire you out, but it is an impossible goal. The peace you really need to make is with yourself. Release the too high ideals, the striving for no conflict, and embrace the chaos of life. Sometimes things are just messy and hard, and full of noise and disaster. And that’s okay. Breathe in… breathe out. You will survive.

I hope you found these words encouraging. Maybe you saw a little of yourself in them. Is there something you need to let go of?

Take a moment today for yourself. Think about the things you have not been facing, or choose to embrace the mess of life that is right in front of you.

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