Behind the scenes of Enneagram Type 7

Type sevens are known for their high-spiritedness and natural optimism. This type is often referred to as, “the enthusiast,” and they are the most imaginative of all the types,but is there more to this type than up-beat pep and energy? Let’s go behind the scenes of enneagram type 7 to find out.

The Aggressive Stance

Speaking of up-beat energy, type seven is at the top of the energy pool. Along with type 8 and type 3, type 7 is in the aggressive stance. These numbers feel big in the room. They take up space with their confidence and manner. These three numbers possess the most energy of the types, and get the most done.

The aggressive stance also means that type seven has a focus on the future. This is evident in the way sevens love to plan parties, or anything “fun,” that they can look forward to. Anticipation of the fun, is equally or even more enjoyable than the actual event.

The aggressive stance means the “doing” center of intelligence is dominant, the thinking center supports the doing, and the feeling center is repressed. For sevens, this means doing comes first. They are extremely impulsive, fast learners, and eager to go on to the next, and the next exiting thing. Thinking comes in second place for sevens, but only after doing. They fall into “asking for forgiveness later,” mentality.

Since their feeing center is repressed, sevens are very out of touch with their feelings. It is their nature to avoid feeling pain of any kind, which includes intense emotions. They subconsciously tune out or fall asleep to these kinds of feelings that make them uncomfortable.

Behind the scenes of Enneagram Type 7

Now that you know what stance the type seven is in, let’s go behind the scenes of enneagram type 7 a little more and find out about their triad.

The Head Triad

The head triad, also called the fear triad is where type seven inhabits. For the seven, this means they love thinking about ideas, and future oriented plans. They may even love reading, if it is something to keep their interest.

Though they are part of the “Fear triad,” they are out of touch with their fear. This is related to the way they handle emotions. Since fear feels negative, sevens will re-frame this into something positive or something they don’t need to deal with, or something they can deny altogether.

The biggest fear of the type seven is of missing out, or of being trapped. They definitely want to be involved in every fun plan and event going on; they want to steer clear of anything that will box them in or emotionally make them feel the feels. Disappointments, sadness, and boredom are avoided at all costs.

What we love about sevens

Sevens truly are the life of the party and a ton of fun to be around! They are eager and optimistic and want to experience all that life has to offer. The type seven is charming and friendly, with huge imaginations that serve them well. They like to do things on the fly and really see the upside of everything. What’s not to like? This cheerful type sure brightens up the world!

What does Type Seven need from others?

Companionship. They don’t want to go on their adventures alone whether real or imagined (for they are also great story-tellers) they want someone to come along for ride and someone to share their stories with.

Make them laugh. Sevens love to laugh and embrace the silly side of life. Encourage this, and laugh with them.

Accept them the way they are. Sevens don’t like to be boxed in, or restricted.

Remind them to be in the present. Sevens get lost seeking the next fun thing in the future; they need pulled down once in a while from their lofty dreams.

I hope you enjoyed going behind the scenes of enneagram type 7 where the glass is always half full.

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Enneagram 101 (the enneagram self-discovery guide)

Who Are You? An Enneagram Discovery Guide

Have you ever wanted to understand yourself better, or to understand the people in your life a little more? Wouldn’t it be amazing if you knew why you do what you do, and beyond that, if could understand what motivates the people around you? The enneagram self-discovery guide is the beginning of your journey.

Today I am sharing with you a printable guide that will help you and a group of friends dig into the enneagram together.

I am so excited to share this information with you!

The enneagram has so many levels to it, and is full of so much wisdom for growth and movement towards awareness in our lives. This enneagram self-discovery guide is a perfect jumping off point. It gives you the, “Enneagram 101 version”, the bones of the wisdom, without overwhelming.

“To know thyself is the beginning of wisdom.”

-Socrates

The gift of knowing yourself opens up so many doors in your life. This is my hope for you and this enneagram self discovery guide. I want you to experience self-awareness and in turn, transformation into the person you truly want to become and were made to be. The enneagram not only shows who you are right now, but who you can work towards becoming.

The enneagram self-discovery guide

What is the enneagram?

The word enneagram, comes from two greek words, “ennea,” meaning “nine,” and “gram”, meaning, “symbol.” No one quite knows the origin, but it has been studied for thousands of years. It is an old wisdom of people and why we do what we do.

If you want to read over the basics, the summary of each type, take a look at this post (An Enneagram Introduction).

The enneagram self-discovery guide

Here are a few of the many benefits of learning the enneagram:

  • Learning your basic emotional structure
  • Understanding your stress patterns
  • Understanding your strength patterns
  • Learning your access points to numbers beyond your basic number
  • Growing in compassion and empathy towards others
  • Appreciating who you are in your core number

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  • What each type looks like in the phases of average, healthy, and unhealthy

This beginners enneagram self-discovery guide is perfect for a group who is just learning about the enneagram. Also, having a group or community around when you are making an effort to grow is very important. The support they can provide is monumental in your success. You can keep each other accountable and share in the ups and downs of learning about yourself.

While going through the guide you should be able to identify with the type that sounds most like you. Pay attention to motivations, rather than behaviors. But take note, it takes some people a while to find their number and that is okay. This is just the beginning of a long journey.

“The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step.”

Lao-tzu (Chinese proverb)
Who are You? An Enneagram Self-discovery Guide

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Live inspired!

Behind the Scenes of Enneagram Type 6

You may know the enneagram type six, as the Loyalist. Psst… guess what?! Type six is the most common if the types!But I have news for you, I happen to be a type six and though we are many, we are not common. So come along with me as I tell you all my secrets. Let’s go behind the scenes of enneagram type 6 and find out who they really are.

Paradoxical

It’s true that type six is extremely loyal. But what you might not know about sixes is that this type is full of paradoxes. Anything you can say about a type six, the opposite is also true. So, though they are loyal, they are first skeptical and distrusting. They are both strong and weak, confident and self-doubting, aggressive and passive, dependent on a group and yet very independent. The list can go on and on.

Holding both opposites inside one human being, causes the type six to doubt themselves, looking outward for advice, but also to the voices within. This brings us behind the scenes of enneagram type six to what we call, “the inner committee.”

The Inner Committee

We all experience doubt at times, and even an inner voice telling us what to do. Sixes experience more than just one voice. It is a multitude of voices from people they love or respect, weighing in their opinion on whatever it is the six is having trouble with. The six channels the perceived opinions of these other people to get rid of their own self-doubt and make a decision based on what they think someone else might choose. This strategy often gets them into trouble however, causing a muddled effect with a riot of voices going on inside.

Sound exhausting? It is. This over-thinking is also related to the fact that the type six is both thinking dominant and thinking repressed. Let’s unpack this idea, as we go deeper behind the scenes of enneagram type 6.

Thinking (head)/Fear Triad

Enneagram type six is the middle number in the thinking/ head triad, sometimes also referred to as the fear triad. Type six shares this triad with types, 5, and 7. All three types are “top heavy,” meaning they are deep thinkers, and also dominant in the the thinking intelligence center. They will all take in information through the thinking center first.

All three of these types are also influenced by fear, but in very different ways. The type six may deal with fear in the most obvious way. Their fear motivates them to strive for security and safety in life. It also causes them to imagine worst-case scenarios wherever they go. They feel if they can prepare and plan for the worst, they will be ready when the worst happens. Ironically, the sixes imagined scenarios almost never happen, and though they fear stressful, unsafe situations, they always seem to handle them with ease and confidence when the moment comes.

The Dependent Stance

Now you know a few of the secrets behind the scenes of enneagram type 6, but did you know the type six is a dependent number? Along with types 2, and type 1, type six is in the dependent stance. This means these numbers have an orientation to time towards the present. These are the “now” people, the “in the moment” people. It also means they base most things on other people. For sixes in particular, it is a combination between self-doubt and wanting the best for all involved.

Sixes are very community minded. They make decisions based on how it will affect the group as a whole. Since they depend on others for decision making, and struggle with self-doubt, sixes can be very indecisive.

Behind the scenes of enneagram type 6

The dependent stance also determines the repressed center, which for this group is thinking. So even though type six is thinking dominant, they are also thinking repressed. What?

Yep, another paradox held inside the type six! This means, the type six takes in information with thinking, but then tends to turn that into over-thinking while processing. This wastes time and energy, that the type six really doesn’t have.

Sixes need to learn to trust themselves. This would eliminate much of their overthinking. They need reminded that they do make good decisions. In fact, if they were to look back at the evidence it would be an overwhelming confidence booster. Sixes seem to forget their successes, and start over with each new decision full of fear and doubt.

Tips for the six in your life

Be clear about expectations. Sixes hate to be surprised, and knowing what to expect calms them, and gives them what they want most: support and a sense of safety.

Reassure them that everything is “okay.” They often feel waves of anxiety and uncertainty about everything in their lives. They need reminded that they have a steady place to stand.

Be supportive, and remind them of their successes. When they are stepping out in faith, give them encouragement. Show them what they have done in the past to get them to where they are now.

I hope you enjoyed going behind the scenes of enneagram type 6 with me. We love those loyalists!

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3 Secrets to Stop Falling into Your Old Habits

We all have patterns that we keep repeating, good and bad. What happens when you can’t seem to stop falling into your old bad habits? These cycles turn destructive and make you feel out of control. Today, let’s talk about 3 secrets to stop falling into your old habits. It can be done with the help of my favorite tool, the enneagram.

Self-Reflection and Awareness

First, you need to identify what your pattern is. This takes the secret of self reflection and developing awareness. What is real self-reflection? Being honest about what is really going on. Watching yourself and your behaviors.

When you want to change anything in your life, or reach a goal of any kind, you have to begin by knowing where you are.

This kind of brutal honesty with yourself is the beginning of healing and growth. Each enneagram type has specific destructive cycles that repeat, when left unchecked. After self-reflection, you naturally become more aware. You will notice, “oh, I’m doing that thing again.” This simple observation- the pause before the reaction, is a powerful tool to adopt.

3 secrets to Stop Falling into Your Old Habits

What are some enneagram habits you might fall into?

Type one might catch themselves overly perfecting things, and criticizing themselves when things aren’t good enough.

Twos might continually forget boundaries and help, when help is not what is needed most.

Three might forget to take off their mask and engage in real relationship.

Type four might continually compare themselves to others and spiral into a downward cycle of feeling somethings is missing from their own lives.

Fives pattern of keeping their needs to themselves and their “fences” high, inhibits growth in relationships.

Sixes might continually doubt themselves and struggle with trusting their decisions.

Sevens might miss out on the moment, while impulsively moving on to the next most exciting thing.

Eights might trample over people in their boldness in effort to hide their vulnerability.

Nines might fall into patterns of merging too often with the desires and opinions of others, and become passive aggressive.

(want to learn more about the nine enneagram types? check out this post.

Pause and Pivot

The great news is, that once you’re aware of your patterns, you can move into new ones. This brings us to our second secret to stop falling into your old bad habits, which I like to call, the pivot. You see the thing you would normally do about to happen, but instead of doing it, you pause and you pivot. This small move is what will change your life when repeated regularly.

Viktor Frankl put it this way:

Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.

I know we are not taking advantage of the space often enough. Pausing is an art lost to the modern world. We feel out of control because we are not using our power to choose our responses. We are simply moving through life on autopilot. But that is no way to live.

Every enneagram type falls into these issues one way or another. This is why the secrets to stop falling into our bad habits are universal. As we’ve discussed already, First we must self-reflect and awaken to our own realities. Then, embrace our power to choose our own responses through pivoting from old patterns.

3 ways to stop falling into your old bad habits

Notice the good and repeat.

Lastly, notice the good and repeat. It is so important to recognize our successes no matter how small. Neuro-pathways are created in the brain when you repeatedly think the same thought over and over. Wow… I hope you are thinking good thoughts! I hope you are feeding that power with good.

Just imagine yourself going through the process of these secrets throughout your day. Observing your behaviors. Being honest with yourself. Pausing in the space before reacting and choosing to pivot to a new response. Then, realizing that you made the better choice. Doesn’t that feel good? Feed your brain, body, and soul with all that goodness! I promise it will make you smile!

You will begin to feel un-stuck, in control, and free!

Don’t you deserve that for yourself?

I know you do.

I hope you will put these words into practice and move in the world inspired.

Behind the Scenes of Enneagram Type 5

Type Fives are known for being investigators, the ones who always have the answer. They are witty and wise, planned and pragmatic. Fives are also the most complicated Type. But what else do we know about this bookish type? Let’s go behind the scenes of enneagram type 5 and explore the deeper parts of this personality.

Withdrawn Stance

It’s important to know that enneagram type five is in the withdrawn stance (along with types 4 and 9). Stances tell us what center of intelligence is dominant and what center of intelligence is repressed. For type five, the “doing center” is repressed, meaning fives might plan and plan, but never get around to doing or following through on that plan. The type five’s dominant intelligence center is thinking.

The Thinking Triad

Five’s fall into the thinking triad, which is why thinking is dominant for them. They take in information with thinking, and use this center most productively. (they share this center with types 6, & 7). This is why type 5 is probably known as the investigator. They are incredible researchers and love knowledge. They also pride themselves in being able to figure things out for themselves, and want to do things on their own. Their independence can feel off-putting, though they don’t mean it that way.

What else is behind the scenes of enneagram type 5?

This withdrawn type needs their space more than any other type. Having time to be a lone, recharges type fives like nothing else. They have limited energy and make choices depending on how much energy they have to spend.

Behind the Scenes of Enneagram Type 5

Though fives are truly dependable friends, they sometimes forget that they need people. They can easily get lost in their books, studies, or hobbies, and literally withdraw into their own world. A little push from a good friend is helpful to remind fives how much they are loved, and to re-join the world.

A huge strength of the type 5 is their resourcefulness. This includes their massive sources of knowledge as well as their logical nature to make things work with what they have. Their analytical minds thrive on the chase figuring things out. Puzzles and word games are magnetic for these thinkers, but please don’t surprise them.

Fives like knowing what to expect; routines, and schedules are their friends. Surprising them will only backfire and make them unwilling to go along. Measured and logical, fives use their limited energy efficiently before they run out. As expert planners, fives compartmentalize information well. They are capable, independent, fair and wise.

Just a few more secrets hiding behind the scenes of enneagram type 5…

As we talked about earlier, fives are chiefly independent. They pride themselves in being capable and doing it on their own. But what about loved ones, friends, and relationships? If you are in a relationship with a five, count yourself lucky. They chose you out of the crowd, and most likely will value you for life. Enneagram fives take giving affection seriously, as it takes high risk for them, and costs them precious energy.

It is also rare for a type five to reveal any needs of their own, or ask you for anything. Since they feel they can do most things themselves, and fear appearing needy, fives tend not to voice their needs. They also don’t want to compromise the self-reliance they have worked so hard to achieve. If they rely on someone else, they may become dependent, and in turn that person may let them down.

What do we love about enneagram type 5?

Fives are great listeners and problem solvers. We can come to them with an issue and they can see the most logical way to solve it. They don’t cloud issues with feelings, but see through to the heart of things with their excellent observation skills, and deep thinking. You won’t find a more responsible type than type five. Trust them with your life.

Behind the scenes tips for loving a type 5…

Allow them the space they need to thrive and re-charge. It’s nothing against you, they just literally run out of energy.

Be straightforward and upfront in communication. These planners want to know the exact details and expectations, without the fluff.

Be a safe place for their needs. Try observing them for a change, and notice what they may not be asking for. Allow them to feel like their needs matter and you can handle them.

I hope you enjoyed reading behind the scenes of enneagram type 5!

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Behind the scenes of enneagram type 5

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Behind the Scenes of Enneagram Type 4

Let’s talk enneagram type four! This type is known as the “Romantic Individualist,” but there is a lot more to them then this generic title. (Pssst… this type is the rarest)!Today I am going behind the scenes of enneagram type four to tell you what they are really all about!

The Heart Triad

Fours fall into what we call the “heart triad.” This means that fours are feelings dominant. But unlike the other two types in this triad, fours express their own feelings outwards as well as having a very vivid and deep inner feelings center. Fours feel everything, and want to feel everything. They don’t shy away from hard or painful feelings. In fact, melancholy is comfortable for fours. They crave the sad and deep. What others may find depressing, is like warmth and breath to a four.

Fours can be considered intense in all ways. This comes from their deep desire to be authentic and unique. They hate small talk, and would rather discuss the meaning of life, or other philosophical conundrums. In their effort for uniqueness, they will express themselves through the way they dress, what they buy, and how they present themselves.

What else can we learn behind the scenes of enneagram type 4?

Like the other two types in the heart triad, fours are image conscious. Though a four’s take on image has more to do with their core longing to be authentic and unique, rather than to impress or draw attention. All three numbers in this triad also deal with shame which is sometimes related to how they feel about their image. Fours in particular, are constantly comparing themselves to others. And, next to the type 1, fours are the next most likely to fall into perfectionism.

Behind the scenes of Enneagram Type 4

Strength and Stress

Fours share a line on the enneagram with type one, so this may explain part of their perfection tendencies. When Four is in strength or growth, they have the ability to access the high side of type one, allowing them to focus on getting things done, following a schedule, and improving their world.

When type four is in stress mode, they move toward the low side of type 2 causing them to be prideful, have deflated self worth, and need the approval of others.

The Withdrawn Stance

Fours are in the withdrawn stance. This means their orientation to time is the past. They long for what was, and rarely find themselves planning the future, or in the present. They are also oriented inward. Their identity comes from within, and they meet their own needs inwardly. This also means they physically withdraw in order to figure things out for themselves. They will come out of time away from others more energized and at peace, and if a decision needed to be made they will have that figured out too.

The withdrawn stance also makes fours doing repressed. They have a hard time getting going on tasks, especially if the task in mundane. Fours will avoid doing what needs to get done for doing what they want to do or what sounds more interesting. Doing repressed also means that fours think, feel and talk a lot more than they do. They might spend a lot of time ruminating on relationships, and what is missing from their own lives.

Thanks for looking behind the scenes of enneagram type 4 with me! Isn’t this type unique? I love enneagram type fours!!!

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It is my hope that you live an inspired day!

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Behind the Scenes of Enneagram Type 3

Enneagram type threes, are known as the achievers. We usually see them as the charming people that always seem to be holding the lucky hand in life. But there is more to type three than being a successful achiever. Let’s go behind the scenes of enneagram type 3 and find out who they really are.

The Aggressive Stance

The first thing to notice about type threes, is that they are in the aggressive stance. What does this mean? Not only are they a confident, powerful number, but they live life for the future. Their orientation to time is always looking forward, not present or looking back.

This may be why threes have a slight advantage over other numbers at being what they are known for- successful. They are extremely driven, and complete tasks efficiently. These charmers can come off as manipulative. They will stoop to lying and cheating if they are unhealthy, and have chameleon like qualities. Meaning, they become whatever is necessary to reach the desired goal.

Like with every number, the three’s passion is both a strength and a weakness. They carry the heavy burden of being what is needed in the room, while completely neglecting who they really are.

Threes are often disconnected with their inner self because they have spent so much of their lives being who everyone else expects them to be. This issue is made worse when they are praised for being the false self. It encourages them to stay there, and avoid growing altogether.

On a lighter note, threes are generally really fun to be around. They are usually quite popular. Slightly owing to fact that they are preoccupied with image and really great at presenting themselves as the person you want to be around. They have a great sense of humor, and get a long with an array of people.

The Heart Triad

Threes are part of what we know as the heart triad, or the feelings center of intelligence. This means they take in information through feelings. However, they are also feelings repressed, which means they don’t use feelings productively. They get stuck in the cycle of thinking and doing. Feelings get put aside, so they can be more productive.

Threes can easily fall into a work-a-holic situation, without the benefit of feelings to let them know they are nearing burnout. They see how things can be done most effectively and line up tasks to get it all done.

Healthy threes make fantastic leaders. Since they are both future oriented and goal oriented, they have the power to lead with great success. They also naturally form groups of followers which allows them to rely on their team to achieve greatness. This type is inspiring and passionate, and can really make change happen in the world.

Growth Tips for Type 3

Tune into how others are feeling, and their needs. In other words, take that inward focus and move it outward.

Stop putting on a show. People love you for you, not for what you do or how well you perform. Allow that to sink in.

It’s okay to fail. This may be your greatest fear, but it actually won’t kill you. In fact, you will a TON from the experience of failing.

What Type 3 Needs From Us

Words of affirmation… but not about their success and achievements (that’s just cheap flattery). Threes need to hear genuine affirmation that lifts up the deep parts of themselves and reassures them that those hidden parts are good, valued and safe to share.

Support when they fail. Since three’s are terrified of this happening, show up for them when it does. This will help them understand that neither their successes nor their failures define them.

Help them bring up feelings to the surface. Ask them how they are feeling. Word conversations around feelings to help them realize they do feel things.

Thanks for reading! I hope you enjoyed this post going behind the scenes of enneagram type 3! I love all the threes in my life, I hope these tips were helpful!

Keep Inspiring!

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The Power of Thanksgiving

You might be looking forward to the turkey and stuffing, and all the traditional eats we serve up every fourth Thursday of November. Now, don’t get me wrong, I love tradition, and well prepared food, but even more than that, I look forward to the pause to reflect on my blessings. There is power in thanksgiving. And no, I’m not talking about “Turkey-Day,” I’m referring to the underlying principle of gratitude that we often tie into this special day.

So, What makes thanksgiving so powerful? Let’s talk about the 3 main factors of this practice that can really change your life.

Recognizing The Good

Busy-ness is often our excuse for not seeing what is right in front of us. When we slow down long enough, we can see the blessings of life.

“What we seek we shall find; what we flee from flees from us”

Ralph Waldo Emerson

But we still have to be looking for the good. Like this Emerson quote points out, we are going to find whatever we are looking for. Why not look for what is positive in our lives?

I love that around this time of year, people are more apt to take stock of what is going well for them. This actually has a growing affect. Being positive about your life actually makes your life more positive. When you start to take notice of little beautiful things around you, you start to notice MORE little wonderful things around you.

Taking time to recognize the good, is a definite key point in the power of thanksgiving.

Sometimes it is simply seeing what you already have is all that you need. Thanksgiving might just be the key to satisfaction.

Sharing The Good

Noticing good in your own life is fantastic, but when you share it with others, it tends to double. We know it takes a community to thrive (read more about that topic here) and being part of a community includes sharing victories, hope, and gratefulness.

Sharing not only personal thankfulness for things that are going well with you, but sharing the ways those in your community have blessed your life truly enriches the community as a whole. It’s important to speak these feelings of gratefulness aloud. People often don’t realize how powerful a simple kindness of saying how someone else has impacted your life can be.

This is a great time to think about those people in your life. Who has made a difference for you personally? Have you told them? Have you looked in their eyes and said a loud, “you make my life better?

These are the moments that make a lasting and powerful difference. What people need most, is to feel seen and heard, and that they matter. Speaking these truths of gratefulness binds communities and families together like nothing else. It increases the feeling of belonging. Did you know thanksgiving could be so powerful?

Taking the Good Forward

The power of thanksgiving moves us forward. When we have thanked others, and others have shown gratitude towards us, it becomes a light inside that we take with us wherever we go. That sense of belonging, and love stay with us and begin to spread in other areas of our lives. Because we feel full emotionally on the inside, we can then begin to fill others who need it out in the world.

Thanksgiving grows. That light shines on people at work, or the grocery store, or waiting in line for whatever thing it is. That kindness of gratitude is passed on to the people around you. It continues the ripple affect… on, and on.

If everyone was intentional about gratitude, the world would feel lighter. It’s a simple thing, that costs us nothing. Why wouldn’t we practice gratitude every day?

Start with noticing the little things.

Add speaking them aloud to loved ones.

Continue simple kindness of thanksgiving in your outward community.

I hope you enjoyed this post. As always thanks for reading. I hope you are inspired and that your positivity will spread in your own community and bless others.

The Power of Thanksgiving
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Behind the Scenes of Enneagram Type 2

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You may know the enneagram type 2 as the helper, but there is much more to them than their strong desire to help others. Today we are going to talk about the many facets of the type 2, going behind the scenes of enneagram type 2 to discover who they really are.

I recently heard someone refer to the type 2, as “the befriender.” I like this name more than the traditional “helper,” name given. The befriender seems more fitting for this type. They are constantly making friends everywhere they go, and hold relationships above all else.

What don’t we know about type 2?

On the surface, type twos appear the most generous. They give without ceasing or wanting anything back. Let’s go behind the scenes of enneagram two. The underlying issue here is that twos actually DO want something back. It is on a subconscious level that they operate this “give and take” contract. They have given to you, loved you, later on, they are going to expect the same generosity and love back.

If you asked a two about this, they would likely not agree, unless they are very healthy and working on these areas. Because all of this is done without them thinking about it, they don’t even realize this is their reality. But the fact remains, they do for you, so you will do for them.

Why?

Twos have an underlying motivation to be loved and accepted for who they are. If they give to you, and love you, they think they can earn your love and acceptance. Being in the heart triad, twos take in information with feelings, but there is a distance between themselves and their own feelings. They tend to be concerned with everyone else’s feelings, and neglect their own. They are also slightly image conscious (especially if they have a 3 wing, which we won’t get into detail here).

Behind the scenes of Enneagram Type 2

Why we love befrienders (type twos)

I happen to be married to a type 2, which makes me uniquely qualified to share why they are so beloved. Maybe my view is a scant skewed, but I can tell you…

No one listens like a 2!

When I first met my husband, it was the first time I had felt seen and heard by a boy, ever. Then, of course, I didn’t realize this was part of his “two-ness.” Twos have this amazing quality to give you their full attention. The rest of the world fades away. Their “Spidey-senses” are scanning, listening for your needs, wants, desires, anything they can fulfill. This circles back to their need for approval, appreciation, and ultimately, love.

Though it may come off as people-pleasing at times, two’s are excellent care-takers. They will anticipate your needs before you ask them. Nurturing comes naturally to them, and they want nothing more than to fulfill the needs of those around them. They do this without complaint, and will continue cheerfully serving especially when given even an ounce of appreciation.

Thinking Repressed

Twos happen to be in the thinking repressed stance. This doesn’t mean they don’t use the thinking intelligence center, only that they aren’t using it productively. Most of their thoughts center around other people, and relationships. Things like, “oh, this would be great for so and so,” or “I wonder how so and so is doing… I should go check on them, and bring them a casserole.” These are great thoughts, kind thoughts. However, the two has a hard time focusing on themselves, and what work they need to be doing to improve their own lives.

Being thinking repressed also means that twos orientation to time, is the present. They are in the moment people. They aren’t thinking about the past or the future. This is probably what makes them such good listeners. It can also make them poor planners, and a bit on the spontaneous side.

What Type 2 Needs from us

Type twos almost never speak their needs aloud. This can make it hard to know how to help them, when they are always playing the role of the helper.

An easy thing that goes a long way is appreciation. Let the twos in your life know how much you appreciate all the little things they do for you. If you step back and take notice it is probably more than you realize. Send them a note, or text thanking them for whatever way they recently served you.

Do something thoughtful for them. This may seem obvious, but returning the favor of service and thoughtfulness is really something twos crave. If they are always watching your kids for you, take their kids for a change. Bring them a favorite coffee, or help them with a current project.

Another tip to remember, twos may be the most sensitive type on the enneagram. Because of this, they don’t take criticism well, so tread with caution in this area. It’s nice to use the sandwich strategy: positive compliment to begin (like the bottom piece of bread) criticism in the middle (like the meat of the sandwich) and then another positive compliment to end (like the top piece piece of bread). This strategy works really well in most cases.

Thanks for reading! It was fun taking a behind the scenes look at enneagram type 2 with you! I love all the type twos in my life! They really make the world a friendlier place!

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Behind the scenes of enneagram type 2

Behind the Scenes of Enneagram Type 1

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You’ll know an enneagram type one as the type that does things right. And they often let you know the right way to do things too. Today I want to take a closer look at this “perfectionist.” Let’s go behind the scenes of Enneagram type 1 and see what they are really all about.

Though type ones are in the anger/gut triad, you might not see this anger directly. They tend to see anger as a “bad” emotion, and don’t want others to relate that with them. More likely, ones will push their anger down, or fail to acknowledge that they are angry at all.

This stems from their need to be “good” at all times, and even for you to perceive them as good. Though this type is usually self-confident, they really appreciate you speaking into them with acknowledgement of how good they are and all of the great things they do.

Behind the Scenes of Enneagram Type 1

And to be honest, it’s not hard to find a true compliment when considering type one. They fill their lives with making the world a better place. Ones are always looking for ways to improve, not just themselves, but whatever community or place they are in. You can bet on ones putting their soul into causes, and standing up for what is right, and pushing for things to change.

This should make it easy for the rest of us to take notice. However, ones don’t want to fish for the acknowledgement they crave and rightly, deserve. When they go on doing, improving, and perfecting without notice, however… this is where that tucked away anger can creep up. “I am doing ALL of this… can’t you do it too?” Can’t you see how much I am doing well?

The type one’s critical side can be awfully cut throat. They have high standards not only for themselves, but for others as well. They expect you to at least meet them half way. When this doesn’t happen, their judgmental side will come out often fueled by resentment.

“Expectations are resentments waiting to happen”

Anne Lamott

How do one’s keep track of all those life goals and high standards to change the world?

A good “to-do” list!

Type one’s love nothing more than to cross off something they’ve completed well from their never-ending “to do list.” They are chronic planners, and list makers, keeping everything where it should be in space and time, and reality.

Enneagram Type 1 Behind the Scenes

Since this type is “thinking repressed,” they are often living in action and feelings. They Feel and do, and do and feel. Their lists help them feel like they are in control and doing it well. Then in turn, their feelings cause them to add more to their to do lists, and the cycle continues, of doing and feeling. Thinking is used to over-think, or simply ignored to stay in the cycle of control and comfort.

Of all the types, type one is the most concerned with ethics and morality. They value honesty and truth above everything. You can depend on this type for, pretty much anything. They are responsible, always follow through, and have heaps and heaps of integrity. They don’t like to “break the rules,” however they do have a fun side hidden behind the scenes.

Ones secretly long to let go. They would love a day of fun where they weren’t in charge for a change. They share a line with the fun-loving type sevens who are known for their spontaneity, and charisma. This means that with a little healthy nudging, ones can come into relaxation and silliness. In fact, they need to at times, and their is no better medicine then laughter to loosen them up.

If you are a type one, or you love a type one, it’s important to bring some levity to the scene. Remember the power of laughter, and playing. Doing something just for fun, is not type one’s “norm,” but when a loved one can encourage this, it brings out that healthy seven side of type one.

Also, remember not to criticize type one (if it can be helped). This type is already SO hard on themselves. They don’t need any more judgement going on. If necessary proceed with caution, honesty, and integrity.

I hope you have more insight into behind the scenes of enneagram type one! Without our type ones there would be far less goodness in the world, and change would move much more slowly. We are so thankful for enneagram type ones!

I hope you are inspired and encouraged!