What are You chasing: Types 7, 8, and 9

In this series, we have been looking into each enneagram type and their patterns, motivations, and ultimately their chase that keeps them stuck. We all chase after what we think will give us love, acceptance, belonging, or what we think we need. Knowing your enneagram type will help you see the chase you are stuck in, and with practice derail the chase. Let’s look at types 7, 8, and 9 this week.

Enneagram Type 7

What Are You Chasing? Types 7, 8, and 9

Type seven is chasing satisfaction and enjoyment. How can I have the most fun? At the same time, sevens are also avoiding pain and repress feelings. Their chase takes them from place to place, always seeking an experience of fulfillment while not going deep enough to feel uncomfortable or vulnerable.

Keeping things light and fun, means sevens have a lot of friends. They also have more experiences and stories than any other number, but this chase can rob type sevens of the depth they don’t even know they desire. While bouncing around from this fun thing to the next, they miss connecting deeply. They’ve moved on before allowing themselves to be seen.

These satisfaction seekers will never truly be satisfied if they stay on this chase. They are quick to re-frame things positively, which can be a great skill. However, sevens do this so quickly and seamlessly, it can feel like they are experiencing an alternate reality. Instead of feeling the pain of disappointment or heartbreak, they want to brush those feelings away seeing only a good side. But we need to disappointments to help us grow and heartbreak forms strength.

Tools to derail the chase for type 7

Be here now.

Sevens often thrive on anticipating future events so much so, that they forget to be in the present. Being in the moment will take conscious effort and practice for sevens, but will pay off.

Repeating the words “be here now,” as a sort of mantra, can help ground sevens to the moment they are in. When distractions come and ideas that are more exciting that what is going on in the present, repeat the mantra. It will mean so much to the people you are with to have your full attention and awareness.

This simple shift is a powerful tool in derailing your chase and bringing more meaning and satisfaction back to your life.

Develop a consistent creative outlet

Enneagram type seven probably has the biggest imagination of all the types. This means they need places they can use this massive idea factory stored in their brains. Using their creativity regularly helps sevens feel what they cannot express, stay grounded, and adds the satisfaction to life that they crave.

It will look different for each individual, of course. Some sevens may love music and play many instruments, others might be very artistic and enjoy drawing, painting and creating. The key here is to define a time and place for this creativity to come alive, and keep to it.

Maybe its every Sunday night in the garage… a set aside time and place for freedom (a type seven’s favorite word) and imagination to run wild.

Let yourself be seen

This might be the most challenging for type seven, who on the outside wants others to think of them as easy going and fun loving. But what about their deeper side? Beneath all that silly, happy-party person is a deep thinker. Someone with great and fantastical ideas, and someone afraid to get hurt.

You don’t have to let everyone see your deeper side, but choose one or two close friends who you can share everything with. They will help you develop your repressed feeling center by being a safe place for you to express yourself. This is vital for derailing your chase, and worth every painful minute of practice.

Enneagram Type 8

What are you chasing enneagram types

Type eight is chasing justice and independence. Eights are big power players. But more than wanting control, they just don’t want to be controlled. They highly value their independence, as well as protecting the people they love. Their chase becomes dangerous when they are willing to hurt others to remain in charge of their own destiny.

An eight’s boldness can allow them to be vengeful, self-centered, and intensely domineering. They see the world in black and white, right and wrong and will go after anyone challenging them. Under this warrior of a personality, lies a softer side, hidden and protected from possible betrayal (an eights biggest fear).

Tools to Derail the Chase for Type 8

Put the Defenses Down

Since eights have a stance of deflecting and being on the defense, it is hard to break through. Many times, all that is needed is a deep breath and a reality check. Some questions to ask yourself:

What do I know for sure?

Is it possible I am in the wrong?

Have my words or actions been hurtful?

Eights think and act so quickly that they can miss what is happening in the moment. Often times, they have moved on without taking time for valuable reflection. A simple pause and check in time, can be very helpful for type eight.

Putting the defenses down will allow for awareness and growth. New perspective can be enlightening for eights who are used to seeing things only one way.

Let Others In

Eights fear being betrayed, and rarely take the risk of deep relationship. It is important for eights to have one or two people with whom they can show their deepest parts. Being vulnerable with these few people will allow that softness to develop and stop the chase of protection in its tracks.

Choose a time once a week to share personal things with your person. This gives you accountability to stick to this development that is needed to derail your chase. Maybe you meet for coffee and answer these questions:

What has made me feel out of control this week?

What has made me feel loved?

Was there a moment when I noticed myself saying or doing something that unintentionally hurt someone this week?

These sample questions are a good place to start to give you something tangible to work with. Bringing up feelings and being aware of the way your dominance affects others are huge steps of growth. This is the beginning, and the person you choose to come along on the journey with you wants to support you and walk along side you as you grow.

Enneagram Type 9

what are you chasing enneagram types?

Nines are chasing peace. This peace they seek is both inner peace and outer peace. Their chase often looks like avoiding conflict in an effort to protect their peace, or find it.

Like the other types, this seems like a good goal on the surface. Who couldn’t use more peace? But the danger of the type nine’s chase is the constant need for no conflict. They will avoid doing things, and spending time with people altogether to keep conflict at bay and remain in peace.

Their chase can also look like not engaging in life. Hard conversations and tasks will get put off. They’ll do that later. Involving themselves might jeopardize the peace status… so its better just to let things go.

Nines also shut down how they really feel in honor of perceived peace. They become people pleasers, agreeing to do whatever is asked of them. They want to please who they are with and go along with the plan, but may have no intention of actually doing it.

Tools to Derail the Chase for Type 9

The Conflict Bridge

I like this word picture of thinking of conflict like a bridge for nines. The bridge is the place where the hard thing has to happen, but once you cross it there is beauty on the other side. Nines tend to want to stay on the safe side for as long as possible, but in this case… the grass really can be greener on the other side.

Embracing conflict may be the hardest thing you ever do. Remind yourself that you can do it. You can cross that bridge, and you will be happy you did. Think of what beauty lies on the other side, that should be your focus. All you have to do is walk over there.

When this is realized, big doors begin to open for type nine. It won’t be easy, but positive self-talk can keep nines moving in the right direction. Remind yourself that you have handled conflict before, and that you can do it again. The peace you want is on the other side of the bridge.

What do you want?

Nines often get lost merging with those around them and don’t take the time and energy to figure out what they actually want. Getting out of this cycle is a tough one, but it begins by awareness.

Notice when you are agreeing because its easier to merge than voice your opinion. Ask yourself, what do I want? What is my opinion? This practice will help you get a handle on how much you follow the wants and desires of others, and give you a starting place to find your own voice.

The next step, is saying how you feel and stating what you believe. Sometimes that will mean saying, no. Other times that will mean you have to cross that bridge of conflict to be heard and to resolve a differing opinion. You are worth it. What you have to say matters and your beliefs deserve to be heard.

Want an overview of all nine types?

As always, Thank you for reading! I hope you have enjoyed this series of each enneagram type and their chase and some tools to derail those chases!

You might also like:

Enneagram Type 8 and Fictional Characters

Enneagram type eights are known for their natural leadership qualities and abilities to get things done without emotions getting in the way. To give you a better idea of what that might look like, let’s explore enneagram type 8 and fictional characters.

Mad-Eye Moody (From the Harry Potter Series)

First of all, are we talking Mad-eye Moody when we first meet him as Barty Crouch Jr., or the real Mad- eye Moody? For typing sake, let’s focus on the real Mad-eye Moody and leave Barty out of it.

A true type eight doesn’t care what others think of them and has a strong pull for justice. Mad-eye is a famous Auror, which in the magical world is sort of like being an FBI agent for the good guys. Mad-Eye has been wounded many times in his service to the common good, which accounts for his menacing appearance.

His limp and his scars don’t slow him down, nor does he care what others think of him. In the true eight nature, Mad-eye stays on track, focused on the goal without worrying how he looks or how anyone feels. He gets things done efficiently, and leads in a commanding way that demands respect.

Along with his leadership skills are his values to protect the innocent, the underdog, and those he loves, or is loyal to. Mad-Eye won’t put up with bullies, big or small. He even defends those being bullied. We see that Mad-eye fights to the death for what he believes in, protecting Harry and the cause.

Katniss Everdeen (The Hunger Games)

Katniss becomes the leader of her family after her father dies. This is typical of the type eight. When no one is taking charge, an eight will rise up and do what needs to be done. She provides food for the family by hunting, and creates a seemingly “safe” space for her sister to feel taken care of.

Furthermore, Katniss shines in a real type eight hero moment, when she volunteers to fight to the death in place of her sister. This moment comes from her type eight gut reaction to protect a dear loved one. There is no way she can let her little sister enter the games where she will most likely die.

Her rising leadership throughout the hunger games books is never about the spotlight, but always about justice. Katniss doesn’t care what she is supposed to do, but breaks the rules for what is right ,or often to protect others.

On the outside she appears cold and unemotional, but we know that underneath her hard type eight shell there is a softer side. Eights protect this above all else. They never want to be seen as weak or vulnerable. Throughout the series, Katniss learns that the only way to true connection is through vulnerability.

Who is your favorite type eight fictional character?

Thanks for reading! I hope you enjoyed my take on these type eights!

Want an overview of enneagram type eight?

You might also like:

Grab an overview of all 9 enneagram types now by clicking the button below.

Love Letters to the Enneagram Types 8 and 9

Love Letters to the Enneagram Types 8 and 9

Who doesn’t love a letter? And especially a LOVE Letter! I have enjoyed writing specific love letters to the enneagram types 8 and 9, and every enneagram type for this series! We are all so different and deserving of a letter made just for us!

I hope you enjoy these love letters and please spread the love! Share them with the people that need to hear them the most!

Want to download and print this letter?

Want a copy of this love letter? Click the button below to download:

You might also like:

Thanks for reading! I hope you have enjoyed this love letters series and that it has brought some positivity into your life and the lives of those around you!

Blessings!

Behind the Scenes of Enneagram Type 8

Enneagram type eight is known for their boldness, powerful presence, and “get it done,” attitude. But there is much more to these “challengers,” as they are sometimes called. Let’s go behind the scenes of enneagram type 8 to find out what they are really all about.

The Aggressive Stance

It’s no surprise that the type eight is in the aggressive stance. They are outwardly aggressive and express their thoughts and opinions openly. This type is not afraid of a fight, in fact they crave the intimacy and intensity a conflict can create.

The aggressive stance also reveals the dominant and repressed intelligence centers of type eight. Because they are in the aggressive stance, eights are doing dominant, and feelings repressed. The thinking center falls in-between, supporting their doing center.

Since the doing center is dominant for eights, this means they act first without considering feelings or thinking about what repercussions their actions may cause. Thinking happens after the action has been done. Feelings are last for type eight.

Being feelings repressed, makes it hardest for type eights to be empathetic. They say what they think, do what they want, and really don’t care about your feelings. They also don’t care what other people think about them, and don’t waste time worrying about feelings in general.

Types in the aggressive stance are also future focused. For type eight, this looks like pushing their goals and powering through obstacles. This forward focus also enhances their need to repress feelings and protect themselves from vulnerability (their worst fear).

Behind the Scenes of Enneagram Type 8

The Anger Triad

Eights are in the anger triad, also known as the “gut triad,” meaning they react quickly and with gut instincts. They know what they want, and usually the most efficient way to get it. Because they bypass feelings, they can be cutthroat, and offensive without meaning to be.

Eights are close to their anger. They express it outwardly and don’t hold back. The other numbers in this triad express anger in a less obvious ways. The type eight lives up to its name as “The challenger,” and definitely walks boldly into every situation.

This kind of confidence and honesty makes the type eight intimidating to most. They are also natural leaders and known for protecting the underdog, as well as those they love. Type eights at their best use their domineering personality for good, helping others and impacting the world.

Behind the Scenes of Enneagram Type 8

Why we love type 8

No one will tell you the truth like an eight. Though their honesty may hurt at times, you can be confident in always knowing where you stand with them. Their communication style is direct, succinct, and full of clarity and conviction.

When they are in your corner, you can’t lose. It is like having a superhero stand behind you and lift you up! They will fight for you, stand up for you, sometimes even fight the battles in your honor if need be. They have a sweet nurturing side for those they love, and the protection of a Mama bear.

The intensity of type eight is admirable. They work tirelessly for what they need to in a practical and passionate way. Eights have a willingness to act and do hard things without giving up.

When the timing is right, eights even know how to loosen up and have a little fun. We love seeing this side of them!

What Does Type Eight Need From Us?

Eights respect people that standup for themselves and radiate confidence. They also appreciate clear, concise communication. Since they don’t beat around the bush, they don’t want you to either. They also don’t want to waste time guessing, or playing games.

Eights don’t care for flattery, but desire honest appreciation of the many things they do. Acknowledge the contributions they make and the hard work they do to make your life better.

Become a safe, trustworthy space for your type eight to feel supported in. Typically eights build walls of protection around anything that feels like vulnerability and need a comfortable place to put some of that. They do have a hidden softer side.

Grab This Type Eight Printable Here!

Behind the scenes of Enneagram type 8

This overview is available here.

Check out this awesome type 8 candle! Get it here.