What Are You Chasing: Types 4,5, & 6?

Last week, we started this series on what we are chasing after. These distractions and subconscious patterns can really take us down paths we never meant to go on. This week, “What are you chasing: types 4,5, and 6?” will focus on these three types, their chase, and tools to help each type derail this seemingly endless chase.

For each enneagram number, the chase looks very different. When we are unaware, our chase can not only control us, but continue long after it should have run its course. However, if we are willing to go deeper beyond the surface level, we can discover:

why we are chasing

what we are chasing

we can find the healthier path to get what we really want out of life

The first step to understanding your chase is to identify it. What is it you are after? Why are you on this path? Is this the best way to get what you want and be who you want to be? What are your core motivations? Are you being honest with yourself? What parts of yourself have you been ignoring? Have you been putting feelings aside, skipping over taking time to think through things? Or maybe you get stuck in thinking and feelings, and never quite get around to doing.

These important questions can really help you pinpoint what is going on with you. Pay attention to what comes up when you ponder these thoughts and ideas.

what are you chasing?

Type Four

Let’s jump in and take a look at enneagram type four. The chase of the four centers around authenticity, belonging, and being unique. At first glance, these strivings seem harmless, even dare I say, beautiful? When there are healthy boundaries around these longings they can be lovely, but notice the words striving, and longing

Type four’s chase turns dangerous when they are striving after authenticity, belonging, and being unique. This becomes a distraction and they miss the beauty they could be embracing that is happening all around them. They feel they are missing out in a big way. While they are stuck in their feelings of missing out… here comes the irony, they actually miss out on life.

Tools to derail the chase for Fours

Go for a walk.

This can be a great re-set for fours. Changing their environment, particularly if they can find a beautiful place to hike or take in nature. The outdoors have a deep healing capability and can reach fours in a way that is very unique.

This also takes the focus off of comparing with others and what they might be missing out on. The real challenge for fours is to stay out of their own minds while out on the walk. If this is a struggle, bring along inspiring music. Make a playlist of songs that lift your mood and help you focus on positivity.

Connecting and celebrating with others

To get out of their chase, fours can reach out to others to connect. Fours are particularly good at seeing others and accepting whatever is real in the moment. This can be used in a positive way to derail their chase and also help a friend.

Finding someone who is in worse shape than you, and connecting with them or even celebrating them will work like a tonic to your soul. Join in, and their will be no room for comparison or feelings of not belonging. Spend time with these people that love you for your authentic self, this will fill you up like nothing else.

Type Five

Type five is chasing knowledge and capability. The more they can know and the more they can do independently, the more confident and safe the type five feels. A thirst for knowledge and skills seems like something to be admired, so what is the danger? Just like all other numbers, this becomes the type five’s obsession and closes them off from growth.

The chase of knowledge can turn into walls for the type five, keeping others out and also keeping the five from taking action. Their chase keeps them distracted by what seems good, but inevitably keeps them away from what they really need: connection. Learning, planning, and acquiring knowledge are all good things, but they can keep the type five from doing what needs done, and being with others.

Tools to derail the chase for Fives

Be Uncomfortable.

Not what you expected… right? Fives are really good at staying inside their comfort zones, and building up walls of protection. The problem is, you can’t grow inside those walls. Do something at least once a week that is uncomfortable for you. This will break up those patterns that keep you from growing.

It doesn’t have to be something huge and scary. Choose something small every week (you can even research ideas first)! For example:

Talk to someone you wouldn’t normally talk to.

Go somewhere you don’t want to go with a friend (at the last minute)!

Stay at an outing an half an hour after you feel like leaving.

These are small ideas, but you will feel yourself making the effort and that is where the change begins to happen. Your awareness that these are hard things for you, will begin a new pattern of growth and change inside you.

Leap before you have all the answers

I know. Another shocker! This is quite the opposite of a type five’s instincts. Usually I say, trust your instincts, follow the voice inside you, but part of the struggle here is too much researching and too little action. Fives want to know that they are completely capable before beginning, but this just isn’t realistic. Be okay with knowing a little, and jumping in anyway.

It’s okay to leap before you have all the answers. You are allowed to make mistakes, you will still be highly respected and highly valued. In fact, getting going on what you’ve meant to get going on, will have a surprising effect on you. You will find that once you’re out there doing, you’re good at it. And it will feel good inside! Even the things you didn’t research… no one else will know but you.

Type Six

The type six is chasing safety and security. They ask all the questions, and seek after the things that make them feel most safe. Sixes are searching for situations where they can be prepared and have the most control. This chase can easily turn sour with over-vigilance and anxiety. It is impossible to control anything, and no one can be prepared for everything.

This simple reality keeps the type six digging themselves in a deep hole. They want nothing more than a predictable life, but life is always unpredictable. This stresses them out, so they double down and try harder to be more prepared. And the chase goes on and on…

Tools to derail the chase to type six

Journaling

The journal focus for type six needs to be: what things have I done that have went well for me? Sixes often forget that they have experience making good decisions and that things have gone well for them in the past. With every new doubt and dilemma, they feel anxiety rise up, full of what ifs.

Journaling positive outcomes will help reinforce the fact that sixes make good decisions. Since they tend to doubt themselves, this is a perfect “derailing practice” for them. With consistency, this journaling focus will help type six develop confidence, and come to realize that they can trust their decisions and their instincts.

Do it scared.

Type six can walk circles around a decision with fear leading the chase. What if this happens, what if that happens, what would I do if… and on and on anxiety and doubt will go.

What if you just did it scared?

This is what true courage is after all, and the virtue of the type six. This means that it’s possible. That you can do things that you don’t think you can do. And when you do things that are hard and scary, they make you stronger and courageous!

Before you do it scared…

It might help to talk things all the way through. We know that the type six verbally processes and processes in real time, the moment happening right now. Choose someone who is willing to listen to do this. Talk out all your worst case scenarios and take them all the way to the end.

Usually, you will find that even in your talking it through version of the scenario, things turned out okay. And even if the worst happened, you have someone there willing to support you.

Notes to remember for all types

As you are becoming more self-aware and making efforts to grow, be kind to yourself. It’s hard to make changes, and it’s best if you don’t do it alone. Let someone know that you are on the journey, maybe they can join you and you can lighten each others load.

Remember that it is a journey. It takes time to notice your chase, practice to pause and pivot towards healthy choices, and to turn these into habits. It really is a life long effort, and one that is worth pursuing for yourself and all the people you love.

Thank you for reading!

It is my hope that these words have brought you some inspiration.

Blessings, peace, and joy to you on your journey!

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Enneagram Type 5 and Fictional Characters

One of the wonderful things about this Enneagram and fictional Characters series, is that it gives you a snapshot of the enneagram type.

Seeing the behaviors, motivations, and passions of a fictional character will help you identify that character. When we talk about ourselves or others, sometimes its hard to be honest, but talking about characters is more accessible, and less threatening. Today, lets’ spend some time with Enneagram 5 and fictional characters.

Jane Eyre

Yes, Jane Eyre strikes me as an enneagram type 5! She is definitely in the head triad, spending much of her time thinking, wondering, and considering. (she most likely has a four wing, adding to her depth of thought, but we won’t get into that here).

Jane has a deep love of books, and spends much of her time reading and learning. She excels at the boarding school, dutifully working hard at her studies and following the rules. Later on, she becomes a teacher, and even a governess.

Furthermore, Jane highly values logic and capability. She figures out how to make her way in life on her own, and follows the most logical path. When she started working for Mr. Rochester as a governess to his ward, she never expected to fall in love with him. He finds her “to point answers,” and quirky-ness adorable. I find them enneagram five-ish.

Enneagram Type 5 and fictional characters

Although, most girls of her time would flirt and put on a facade, presenting themselves in the way most apt to get them a marriage proposal, Jane is simply herself at all times. She doesn’t go after Mr. Rochester, in fact she tries to deny her feelings for a long time. She is surprised to find herself jealous of a girl whom she thinks Mr. Rochester is interested in.

In other words, fives are often unaware and surprised by their own feelings. They don’t go out of their way to get attention. They are fine doing their own thing out of the spot light. A type five like Jane, can easily be looked over at a large gathering. They simply don’t play the social games that everyone else seems to play.

Finally, Jane Eyre makes a great snapshot of an enneagram type five in relation to her independence. She leaves on her own, telling no one of her plans to leave in the middle of the night. It is only as a last, desperate resort that she asks for help when she can’t go on any longer.

What do you think? Is Jane a type 5?

Professor (Severus) Snape

I see Professor Snape as a classic Enneagram Type 5. He is one of the most skilled and educated wizards of his time. His extensive research and knowledge/love of knowing, “how to bottle death,” etc. show his dedication and five-like qualities. There isn’t a potion too challenging for him, or an herb he doesn’t know. Snape is more than “book smart.” Remember, he’s the half-blood prince?

Type five falls into the withdrawn stance on the enneagram. This means that Snape and all fives, are looking back in the past, dwelling on things gone. We definitely see this with Snape. His whole life is about the past. Promises he made to those long gone, wrongs done to him, and memories both good and torturous are what occupy his present.

He doesn’t allow himself to get close to anyone, keeping his heart guarded and his emotions locked away. His dedication is to the cause, the only thing he has left of the one he loves.

Mr. Darcy

Enneagram type 5 and fictional characters

It may surprise you to think of Mr. Darcy as an enneagram type 5. Could it be his snobbishness is actually a misinterpretation of his shyness or classic type five withdrawn nature?

Type fives are also known to hoard emotions. They have a hard time feeling emotions when they are happening in real time. Instead, they store those emotions to think about and process at a later time. We don’t get to see Mr. Darcy processing his emotions, but we do get to see the result of this. After processing how he really feels about Elizabeth Bennet, he shows his love by helping her family avoid public shame, and writing her a letter to clear up misunderstandings.

Mr. Darcy displays many of the strong type 5 characteristics. He is logical, capable, and a deep thinker. Residing in the head triad, which is also the fear triad, he is hesitant to follow his heart, because he is not used to those feelings. When he does get in touch with those deep feelings through thinking through them, it all turns out good in the end!

Thanks for reading! Let me know what you think. Who is your favorite enneagram type 5 fictional character?

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Enneagram Love Letters

Types Three, Four, and Five

I am continuing the Love Letter Series this week, dedicating a love letter to each enneagram number. What better gift, than the expression of love through words?

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Behind the Scenes of Enneagram Type 5

Type Fives are known for being investigators, the ones who always have the answer. They are witty and wise, planned and pragmatic. But what else do we know about this bookish type? Let’s go behind the scenes of enneagram type 5 and explore the deeper parts of this personality.

Withdrawn Stance

It’s important to know that enneagram type five is in the withdrawn stance (along with types 4 and 9). Stances tell us what center of intelligence in dominant and what center of intelligence is repressed. For type five, the “doing center” is repressed, meaning fives might plan and plan, but never get around to doing or following through on that plan. The type five’s dominant intelligence center is thinking.

The Thinking Triad

Five’s fall into the thinking triad, which is why thinking is dominant for them. They take in information with thinking, and use this center most productively. (they share this center with types 6, & 7). This is why type 5 is probably known as the investigator. They are incredible researchers and love knowledge. They also pride themselves in being able to figure things out for themselves, and want to do things on their own. Their independence can feel off-putting, though they don’t mean it that way.

What else is behind the scenes of enneagram type 5?

This withdrawn type needs their space more than any other type. Having time to be a lone, recharges type fives like nothing else. They have limited energy and make choices depending on how much energy they have to spend.

Behind the Scenes of Enneagram Type 5

Though fives are truly dependable friends, they sometimes forget that they need people. They can easily get lost in their books, studies, or hobbies, and literally withdraw into their own world. A little push from a good friend is helpful to remind fives how much they are loved, and to re-join the world.

A huge strength of the type 5 is their resourcefulness. This includes their massive sources of knowledge as well as their logical nature to make things work with what they have. Their analytical minds thrive on the chase figuring things out. Puzzles and word games are magnetic for these thinkers, but please don’t surprise them.

Fives like knowing what to expect; routines, and schedules are their friends. Surprising them will only backfire and make them unwilling to go along. Measured and logical, fives use their limited energy efficiently before they run out. As expert planners, fives compartmentalize information well. They are capable, independent, fair and wise.

Just a few more secrets hiding behind the scenes of enneagram type 5…

As we talked about earlier, fives are chiefly independent. They pride themselves in being capable and doing it on their own. But what about loved ones, friends, and relationships? If you are in a relationship with a five, count yourself lucky. They chose you out of the crowd, and most likely will value you for life. Enneagram fives take giving affection seriously, as it takes high risk for them, and costs them precious energy.

It is also rare for a type five to reveal any needs of their own, or ask you for anything. Since they feel they can do most things themselves, and fear appearing needy, fives tend not to voice their needs. They also don’t want to compromise the self-reliance they have worked so hard to achieve. If they rely on someone else, they may become dependent, and in turn that person may let them down.

What do we love about enneagram type 5?

Fives are great listeners and problem solvers. We can come to them with an issue and they can see the most logical way to solve it. They don’t cloud issues with feelings, but see through to the heart of things with their excellent observation skills, and deep thinking. You won’t find a more responsible type than type five. Trust them with your life.

Behind the scenes tips for loving a type 5…

Allow them the space they need to thrive and re-charge. It’s nothing against you, they just literally run out of energy.

Be straightforward and upfront in communication. These planners want to know the exact details and expectations, without the fluff.

Be a safe place for their needs. Try observing them for a change, and notice what they may not be asking for. Allow them to feel like their needs matter and you can handle them.

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